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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I really lucked out with my DH, but when I first started dating him, I literally burst out laughing when my friend asked me if I'd ever marry him.

Of course, I was still young then, and so you have a little less time than me (about five years, so not critical), but I do think that if I was looking for a husband, I'd have kept striking out.

HAVING SAID THAT, the paradox is that you don't want someone who is great at dating, horrible at marriage (or, put another way, great at traveling, horrible at the daily grind).

What is it, specifically, that makes you feel eager to settle down? People do truly flock to people who are somewhat self-sufficient/not needy, but open to others.

And I'll also say that it would help to date outside your ethnic background. (I'm Jewish, and some of my Jewish friends have had a hard time dating because they limit themselves to Jewish men, who are notorious for dating out. And the J-Date site is awful, I hear. So I ended up with an Asian husband, who is wonderful.)

What I *wouldn't* focus on, so much, is your appearance, because frankly, I have not noticed it to make much difference. Perhaps on the contrary, [b]the too-put together ladies sometimes come off as too high-maintenance.[/b][/quote]

+1.  I have a friend--late 30s, AA, decently attractive, never married, very well-educated--who wants to get married at some point.  I think she comes off as too high-maintenance.  Hair and makeup are always perfect, always dressed in heels, still goes to bars/clubs.  I don't think she comes across as down to earth, and therefore I think the "marriage material" men are probably scared off, although I wouldn't tell her that.[/quote]

Interesting, but I know alot of AA and Nigerian girls who are always put together and are happily dating and married to quality, educated guys. [/quote]

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