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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have some online dating advice that really saved me. It took me years to realize, but it made a huge difference immediately.

Only engage with men who state they want a monogamous relationship, hope for marriage, etc.  [b]Do NOT engage with men who say they are looking to be friends and see where it goes, etc.  The men who state outright what they hope to find - not that they plan to settle or rush it, but that they want it in their life - are the ones you want.  The ones who dance around it or say they want to date and see what happens...they are not currently in the same headspace as you. [/b] THey may get there later, but that doesnt help you.  Once I made this a line for me, in reviewing profiles, my dates went SO much better and I had multiple long term relationships ending with the one I married.  Online dating can be death by a thousand papercuts (rejection, ghosting, etc), but it really can work out so well if you are discerning in your selection.  It may mean long "dry" spells, but keep your life hopes in mind - marriage, family etc. And look for that in them.  Im excited for you.  I know its hard for all women - esp in DC area - and probably even harder for minorities, but I think you got this  =)[/quote]

I don't know. There's a lot of social pressure on a man to "play it cool" when it comes to this stuff. Men are socialized to not come out any say that they are looking for marriage, even if they are. A man who brings up, or seems interested in marriage, early on is going to come across as an oddball, or desperate, to most women.[/quote]

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