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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, honestly I think you're fixating on how to tell your children because you are not allowing yourself to think honestly about what has happened. You found out very recently and seem to imply you've processed and moved on. I have my doubts that that is the case. I think we often try to distract ourselves by worrying about our kids so as not too deeply prone our own feelings about something. Your husband didn't just cheat. He involved your son in this betrayal. I think there is anger and a whole wealth of emotions you may not have really acknowledged, given that you won't even answer the questions about that. Secure your own oxygen mask before aiding your children. Take care of yourself before making any commitment to this sham of a marriage or figuring out things like how to tell the kids. You're not ready to go there yet.[/quote]

Please listen to this person.  I haven't been in your exact position, but I've been in a similar spot and at a few months out was absolutely still panicking and trying to figure out how to make sure my life didn't change.  It sounds like that's the spot you are in right now.  You don't want your life to change, and you dread what all of this means so you are just trying to keep going.  Here's the thing - your life already changed.  You're just refusing to deal with it.

Also, other folks have asked a really good question that you seem to be dodging.  So I'll ask again.  Did your husband make your son complicit in the deception by letting him know before you?   [/quote]

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