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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have a cleaner coming but prioritized cleaning for the cleaner above spending quality time with your husband. He's not the only one to blame for what happened. [/quote]

Yes, I could have dropped everything and initiated with him, so that I would continue to do all those things myself afterward and he could just go to sleep. I've done that before. Larger problem, to me, is he isn't initiating chores on his own to split the work more equitably, thereby helping us to have that quality time.  I'm not intending to 100% of fault on any one person or circumstance.

But yes it is a fact of life that before the cleaners come, the toys and books and clutter has to be picked up and put away. [/quote]

Here's the thing op.  You KNOW he doesn't initiate the cleaning so why are you suddenly Surprised?  Be more direct...

"Dh, dd and I have to call my parents/brother for her bday.  Can you pick up the toys and stuff for the cleaners tomorrow?  Don't forget *wink wink* gotta get this stuff done now so we can go to bed early *wink wink*"

You guys seem to be having problems.  But you can't expect things to change without making some changes on your end too.  [/quote]

I don't feel surprised, just tired of the same old problem, and tired of talking about the same old problem with him. I think I do a pretty good job of communicating our issues, but I think I need to work on communicating when there ISNT an acute issue, if that makes sense.

Thanks to all for the suggestions on how to approach. [/quote]

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