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[quote=Anonymous]So I have a perspective both as a kid who had no contact with my grandfather because my dad cut him off and also now a parent who ironically is not speaking to my dad and his wife.

When it comes to being the kid, I honestly didn't really care about not knowing my grandfather.  I had amazing grandparents (my mom's parents) who I saw everyday.  I just never felt like I missed anything and on the rare occasion even as an adult when I saw my grandfather (a family funeral, etc..) I felt uncomfortable around him and simply preferred not to interact.

Now my dad and his wife have become abusive towards me.  They are heavy drinkers and pill poppers and also are simply pathological liars living in their own fantasy of what they want to believe their lives are versus reality.  I moved back home after having kids and they were initially very involved in our lives but after a number of fights and abusive manipulative behavior I started going to therapy and invited them to join me.  They refused to go and I am done trying to fix things or simply sweep the blow ups under the rug much like I did most of my life with them.

My dad has a pattern of cutting people from his life unless they see everything his way.  I simply can't do it anymore and don't want to set my kids up to be hugely disappointed and hurt by him like everyone else in his life.

Of course now my stepmother is spread a rumor to my brother that they will sue me for grandparents rights.  It's unbelievably hurtful and shocking that my own parent could care so little about my well being and yet think I am going to drop off my toddler and Kindergartner whenever it's convenient for him.[/quote]

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