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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]YOU invited them to a religion event BUT then YOU are offended when THEY invite YOU to their religious event.

Why are YOU so intolerant of other perspectives?
They were nice and respectful at your event. Why are you UNWILLING to attend their event?

The way YOU interpreted of felt about his question is YOUR problem. YOU interpreted his question according to YOUR internal barometer. In your own original post you said that YOU took his comment a certain way. He did not actually disparage your religion. You just assumed that is was his intention.

Moreover. even if he doesn't believe your religion and think you need to be Christian. Isn't that a statement that he is concerned about your well being? Why can't you just take the invitation as him reaching out to you. He merely reciprocated your invitation with his own.[/quote]
OP here, and I'm not sure I should even give you the courtesy of a response - what with your YOU and YOUR and UNWILLING and a generally attacking attitude. But I will:

1) I am not intolerant of other perspectives. That's why I have friends of all religions - Christian, Muslim, Hindu, and plenty of atheists, too. To each his own, I say, as long as they are respectful of others' beliefs.

2) And YOU don't think he disparaged my religion? I invited him to one of the most important Jewish ceremonies of the year, and five minutes after it's over.....he basically says that if I don't abandon the religion he just observed, I will go to Hell. He didn't say, as another poster remarked, "hey, thanks for a lovely evening. Would you be interested in coming to one of my church services?" I would have taken that as reciprocity (in his mind). But he didn't start out that way....he started out by letting me know that he thinks I'm destined for Hell. Nice.

3) The reason I say "in his mind" (in #2 above), is because the invitation isn't really an equal type of thing. When a Christian goes to a Seder, there is nothing there that runs counter to his beliefs. In fact, you could say he's getting closer to Jesus by experiencing one of his religious traditions. But when a Jew goes to a church, he DOES hear a lot that completely negates his religious beliefs.

4) And finally, he did more than simply extend an invitation to "reach out" to me. He badgered me about it. I told him "I appreciate it, but I don't think it's for me" nicely, and then he came back a second time, and I told him "no" again, and then a third....practically DEMANDING I go. [/quote]

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