Anonymous wrote:OP just admit that you want them to respect your religion but you don't want to hear anything about theirs. You need to just need to make sure everyone around you is Jewish then you will not get offended.

Anonymous wrote:So practicing their religion and inviting you to their church is extreme but you inviting them to attend one of your religious event does not mean that you are also an extremist?

Double standard.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't put any effort into it, that's for sure. And I would probably avoid him as much as possible. I wouldn't judge you if you dropped them either.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A Christian friend of mine, whom I've known about five years, was telling me that her church has a seder, and that she finds it interesting. After getting the OK from my parents (the hosts), I invited her (and her husband) to our first-night Seder. Both were respectful during the service, as I would expect, even though I'm sure the Hebrew was boring to them. They thanked my parents profusely for a wonderful evening, and off we headed. (We drove together.)

Not five minutes into our trip, the husband asked me, "Do you want to go to Heaven?" I immediately felt uncomfortable, since I took it as a negative judgment of the Jewish religion/tradition he had just witnessed, and answered, "I'm don't think there is a Heaven, but if there is, of course I want to go." He then answered, "then how about coming to church with us this Sunday." (His wife, my friend, said nothing.) I said, swallowing my anger, "I like my religion and want to keep it," and he said, "Well, we went to a service of yours." (The wife still said nothing, even though it was apparent I was uncomfortable.) He asked me three times to give it a chance, and I answered three times that I was not interested.

This is not the first instance I've had with the husband, btw. He is always telling me about predictions made in the Old Testament about Jesus, and one time the wife (my friend), quoted something about the only way to the Father is through the Son. I've asked them to stop, but this last experience has crossed the line. I just got off the phone with the wife (couldn't call yesterday because it was still holiday), and told her how uncomfortable I am when her husband keeps trying to get me to "accept Jesus." Her response? "Try not to be so sensitive about every little thing."

It's her response that has got me thinking I need to sever the friendship. Opinions?

Given what you wrote in paragraph 3, why did you ever invite him to a seder? You knew that they are both a bit extreme.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get why you invited them in the first place.
But I would ditch this friendship.

Because she said that her church has a seder, and she found it interesting. I thought she was indicating that she'd enjoy experiencing a Jewish, traditional Seder. (Of course, she was free to turn the invitation down.)

Any Christian church that has a seder is an evangelical church committed to proselytizing, and may even be one of the churches that believes salvation will come when all Jews accept Jesus and/or move to Israel.

Be very wary of Christians who practice Jewish rituals (as opposed to being part of an interfaith network of Christians and Jews) -- they almost always are going to be part of churches that do active testimony and proselytizing.

You might want to post this in the Religion forum, where I suspect other people, including other Christians (I'm Jewish) will back me up.

Anonymous wrote:A Christian friend of mine, whom I've known about five years, was telling me that her church has a seder, and that she finds it interesting. After getting the OK from my parents (the hosts), I invited her (and her husband) to our first-night Seder. Both were respectful during the service, as I would expect, even though I'm sure the Hebrew was boring to them. They thanked my parents profusely for a wonderful evening, and off we headed. (We drove together.)

Not five minutes into our trip, the husband asked me, "Do you want to go to Heaven?" I immediately felt uncomfortable, since I took it as a negative judgment of the Jewish religion/tradition he had just witnessed, and answered, "I'm don't think there is a Heaven, but if there is, of course I want to go." He then answered, "then how about coming to church with us this Sunday." (His wife, my friend, said nothing.) I said, swallowing my anger, "I like my religion and want to keep it," and he said, "Well, we went to a service of yours." (The wife still said nothing, even though it was apparent I was uncomfortable.) He asked me three times to give it a chance, and I answered three times that I was not interested.

This is not the first instance I've had with the husband, btw. He is always telling me about predictions made in the Old Testament about Jesus, and one time the wife (my friend), quoted something about the only way to the Father is through the Son. I've asked them to stop, but this last experience has crossed the line. I just got off the phone with the wife (couldn't call yesterday because it was still holiday), and told her how uncomfortable I am when her husband keeps trying to get me to "accept Jesus." Her response? "Try not to be so sensitive about every little thing."

It's her response that has got me thinking I need to sever the friendship. Opinions?

Given what you wrote in paragraph 3, why did you ever invite him to a seder? You knew that they are both a bit extreme.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get why you invited them in the first place.
But I would ditch this friendship.

Because she said that her church has a seder, and she found it interesting. I thought she was indicating that she'd enjoy experiencing a Jewish, traditional Seder. (Of course, she was free to turn the invitation down.)

Any Christian church that has a seder is an evangelical church committed to proselytizing, and may even be one of the churches that believes salvation will come when all Jews accept Jesus and/or move to Israel.

Be very wary of Christians who practice Jewish rituals (as opposed to being part of an interfaith network of Christians and Jews) -- they almost always are going to be part of churches that do active testimony and proselytizing.

You might want to post this in the Religion forum, where I suspect other people, including other Christians (I'm Jewish) will back me up.

Anonymous wrote:If someone invited me to their religious ceremony, I would invite them to mine. I don't think that was out of line and that exchange could be beneficial to both. The bit about heaven and evangelizing is crossing the line though.

Anonymous wrote:YOU invited them to a religion event BUT then YOU are offended when THEY invite YOU to their religious event.

Why are YOU so intolerant of other perspectives?
They were nice and respectful at your event. Why are you UNWILLING to attend their event?

The way YOU interpreted of felt about his question is YOUR problem. YOU interpreted his question according to YOUR internal barometer. In your own original post you said that YOU took his comment a certain way. He did not actually disparage your religion. You just assumed that is was his intention.

Moreover. even if he doesn't believe your religion and think you need to be Christian. Isn't that a statement that he is concerned about your well being? Why can't you just take the invitation as him reaching out to you. He merely reciprocated your invitation with his own.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am putting on my shoes and leaving the house now. I am going out to look for a new Christian friend!

Thanks again, everyone.

I'd be your friend OP. And respect your belief.

- A believer in a Christ, and a respecter of other faiths.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get why you invited them in the first place.
But I would ditch this friendship.

Because she said that her church has a seder, and she found it interesting. I thought she was indicating that she'd enjoy experiencing a Jewish, traditional Seder. (Of course, she was free to turn the invitation down.)