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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, the examples you give sound more like your DH is spoiling/coddling your kids rather than undermining you.  there may be a lot more examples that don't involve your kids, but at least from what  you posted it just sounds like he errs on the side of letting them have everything.  Not that I think it's good, but I sometimes do that without thinking "let them have the computer/tv/clean rooms over me or my spouse" and I can see how that could seem like it's undermining you when really it's just about putting the kids first.[/quote]

I don't think that it is putting the kids first to let them have everything and abstain from teaching them basic life skills.

Everyone in the family needs to have some house responsibilities. Kids cleaning their own rooms and bathroom is a very basic minimum. Same with doing laundry. Part of parenting means teaching these basic life skills and it also means being a good role model for your children. They are getting a very warped message of what it means to be a family from growing up with this dynamic. This is especially harmful if OP has a daughter. Do you really want your daughter to normalize that being a mother means you work all the time and never take care of yourself? That you never stand up for yourself? Really? [/quote]

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