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As someone who is a classically trained pianist and was pushed by my parents to do it throughout my childhood, including recitals and competitions, I can tell you that it is quite miserable until you get a good mastery of it. The struggle is real and it is hard and many people are not cut out for it. But there is a silver lining if she can break through and get to the other side. As an adult, it has provided me with a lifetime of joy and pleasure and it has helped me immensely in getting my children up and running on piano as well, which warms my heart. It is usually not fun to be "middling" at something - you have to just keep pushing through until you get to the other side. Tell her to keep going - even when the going gets tough - she will get there eventually. The amount of time it takes is NOT important and she should absolutely stop comparing herself to others. As they say, comparison is the thief of joy. Good luck![/quote]

I have the opposite view. There has to be [i]something[/i] about playing an instrument that brings you joy, at every level of playing. It makes no sense to keep playing an instrument miserably in the hope that some day it will bring you joy. Joy is the whole point of music.[/quote]

NP.  I am also classically trained pianist, trained in Eastern Europe.  I wanted it, my parents tried to discourage me the whole time. When I finished elementary school piano, and wanted to move on to high school(there are schools like that in my country) they discouraged me again, and my sister too. We enrolled on our own. Practicing doesn't give you all that much joy, but performing in front of an audience or a panel of judges, that gave me immense joy.  For some people, there is that feeling of anxiety, but also exhilaration of performing that makes a performer draw from the audience and the music becomes passionate and emotional. I suspect that some people might not be cut out for that kind of pressure and maybe OP's kid is one of those kids. And there is nothing wrong with that, if you are dreading doing something and you don't have to do it, why make yourself/your kid miserable?[/quote]

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