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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here- I'll just explain everything better here instead of responding to individual posts.

Yes; she was physically abusive. It started around 14 and was the worst around 15-16. She would get angry with me about the littlest things- not vacuuming when I said I would, having my music too loud in my room, etc. I remember when I was 15, I got mad at her for not letting me go to a friends house so as a typical teenager, I went to my room and slammed the door. She came slamming into the room after, screaming in my face. I told her to get out of my face and she grabbed me by the arms and shoved me against the closet door and in exact words said "have fun being grounded all weekend you fat fuck". That is etched in my brain forever. Another time she came in and threw a glass full of water at my head. It shattered on my wall and got all over my bed. Another time she hit me repeatedly with a belt, all over my body. I had welts everywhere. The last thing I remembered around 16 was her punching me in the throat. So no, I did not make these things up. I had a journal as a teenager and I still have it. I brought it with me to a therapy appt last year so he could read it over. I went into many details about what she did and why she was mad at me or angry at the time and it was all petty stuff such as me not cleaning or I got a 78 on a test. When I was 16, I had a friend who lived in the same neighborhood who's dad was the local town cop and after she left welts on me, I ran to her house. Her dad called one of the other cops to come over and he took pictures of the marks on my body and wrote down what happened. He then went over to my parents house to get my moms side and she made up a story and the cop ended up saying "sometimes moms and daughters fight".....so yeah.

I truly hate her. I don't care if some of you think I'm dramatic or whatever but it's true. My childhood was miserable because of her. She treated me like absolute shit and there were so many times I wanted to end my life because of her. She constantly made me feel like such a low life worthless piece of shit she made it clear that I was never going to be good enough for her. Once my sister was born when I was 13, she was my moms "do over child". I grew up constantly watching my mom hug and kiss her and constantly say I love you to her when I couldn't even remember the last time she told me she loved me.

I was a "whore" for getting my ear pierced. I was trashy for wearing eyeliner. That's what she would tell me. My 16 year old sister wears full faces of makeup and has 3 piercings in each ear and that's okay to my mom. Yes, I'm sure she's "softened" a bit now but still. It doesn't mean I forgot all the things she would say to me when I was my sisters age and yes, it does bother me that she doesn't care that my sister does those things and she's "not a whore" for it but at the same time, I'm glad she doesn't have to deal with that because she gets to have a good childhood and not have to wonder why her mother clearly hates her so much. [/quote]

Sounds like you should elope so you don't focus so much on your mom.  You don't want your mom affecting your big day and I can see how it would be hard to not have her do so. [/quote]

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