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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Will your dad and siblings come if mom is not invited? I imagine you want the rest of the family there (sine you mentioned going to Christmas to see them). How will you feel if dad and sibs don't come because mom makes a big deal about not being invited? Which matters more to you, seeing them nor not having her? I also have a horrible parent (not quite as bad as yours) and understand, but I know the other parent would never come with horrible one, so invitations for both always.[/quote]

Yeah, you're going to have to give consideration to this.  How will you be able to have a relationship with your father/siblings if you don't allow your mother to come.  Do you really think she's going to be okay with that and there won't be repercussions for them?  I gently suggest you work on fortifying your defenses and ability to establish/maintain boundaries.  So what if she's judgemental?  So what if she thinks your fat and your dress is hideous?  You're still giving her power over you.  You need to work on that.

Also, I know your dad called you 3 years ago and apologized for not taking your side and not recognizing how bad it was for you.  When you have kids and they get to the age you were when you remember the abuse, you may need to haul yourself back to therapy.  Many of us are re-traumatized and struggle with inaction of the non-abusive parent.  Just a seed.  Good luck.[/quote]

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