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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] to jump on the bandwagon, but OP, I do take issue with you implying that "only children" wouldn't know how to share/take turns by saying [quote]She has siblings so she does have to take turns and share, that's not the issue, she's easy about things like that. [/quote]  My only child has always had to take turns and share - probably more than yours because she is around adults a lot more and has to sit there and listen to adults talk and wait for an (according to her) excruciatingly long time. [/quote]

Op did not imply only children don't know how to take turns. You are really reading into this. (I have an only child).

To other posters, I think op is talking about leadership in light of the newest philosophy that [b]we must allow our daughters to be bossy, lest they lose the part of their personalities that would drive them to be CEOs[/b] in the future. Op seems to understand that meanness and bossiness will not win any friends. I don't see how op is condoning or excusing the behavior.[/quote]

[b]Being bossy is being a bitch[/b]. You don't need to be bossy to be a leader. If the idea is to be a dictator, then keep [b]encouraging young girls to be bossy[/b].[/quote]

Would you say this of a boy? No, you wouldn't. You use that term as a way of suggesting leadership in girls is somehow a negative quality. 
No, being bossy isn't good. Nor should a female child or otherwise have the term "bitch" thrown at her in a forum or otherwise. 
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My son went through a stage of wanting to 'run' the games at school -- being bossy about the game, rules, etc.  We did talk with him about the need to be able to adapt and play with other kids if you actually want to play with the other kids.  That different kids need to be able to pick the game or the rules need to be negotiated if you are playing with others, etc.  And did some role play games and books about how it feels to be on the other side of being bossed around (or "ruled") by another kid.  He's still more of a 'leader' than a 'follower' in many group dynamics, but he learned to moderate it.[/quote]

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