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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] to jump on the bandwagon, but OP, I do take issue with you implying that "only children" wouldn't know how to share/take turns by saying [quote]She has siblings so she does have to take turns and share, that's not the issue, she's easy about things like that. [/quote]  My only child has always had to take turns and share - probably more than yours because she is around adults a lot more and has to sit there and listen to adults talk and wait for an (according to her) excruciatingly long time. [/quote]

Op did not imply only children don't know how to take turns. You are really reading into this. (I have an only child).

To other posters, I think op is talking about leadership in light of the newest philosophy that [b]we must allow our daughters to be bossy, lest they lose the part of their personalities that would drive them to be CEOs[/b] in the future. Op seems to understand that meanness and bossiness will not win any friends. I don't see how op is condoning or excusing the behavior.[/quote]

[b]Being bossy is being a bitch[/b]. You don't need to be bossy to be a leader. If the idea is to be a dictator, then keep [b]encouraging young girls to be bossy[/b].[/quote]

Would you say this of a boy? No, you wouldn't. You use that term as a way of suggesting leadership in girls is somehow a negative quality. 
No, being bossy isn't good. Nor should a female child or otherwise have the term "bitch" thrown at her in a forum or otherwise. 
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Don't speak for me. Yes, any person being bossy is being any form of pejorative that applies.

Bossy is NOT a leadership quality.

Honestly apologists like you are exactly why there are frequent threads in the Jobs forum with people saying they hate female managers. You encourage terrible behavior and claim it's leadership. You create an awful perspective of our gender.[/quote]

Says the person who uses the term bitch to refer to young girls.  :roll: But you're lying, you absolutely would not refer to a boy this way to refer to someone who likes to be in charge. 
And you know that you never have.
As uncomfortable as it seems to be for you, your perception of women/girls is skewed in terms of what is acceptable language and behavior. It's why you immediately drew a parallel between a discussion about a "bossy" girl and the "problems" with female managers.  Clearly you have some deep seated self loathing for your own gender...issues that you need to work out in therapy. 
Being bossy is not a positive trait. Neither is using that kind of language about a child or backing up thinly-veiled misogyny in the subconscious hope of somehow distinguishing yourself as not "that" type of woman to the boys club.
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