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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I have somewhat similar dynamics with one set of neighbors who are devout Catholics - complete with yard signs and conversation supporting many things I disagree with.

They are lovely people, and the kind of neighbors who will keep an eye on your house when you're away, let your kids run through their yard, genuinely care about and support you if they know you are going through something, etc...  And we fundamentally disagree on MANY things we all hold dear.

I have found ways a couple of times to put some discussion boundaries in place.  For instance, in response to a genuine expression of religious conviction and caring - yet in a way I don't welcome, I have said things like "Thank you Jane.  My views on that are pretty different, but I really appreciate the concern."  Or "Well, we are not religious. Look at your beautiful rose bushes!  Did you hear that the house up the street is going to be torn down?"

Etc...

Anyone paying attention, who wishes to be able to maintain a cordial relationship with neighbors, can give those conversational cues in a way that is gentle but clear, and can respect and work with them in return.

So try to think of ways to gently communicate to your neighbor that certain subjects may need to be off the table.  You don't have to be explicit.  If she picks up on the cues then you can both be cordial and as limited as necessary in your interactions.

If she doesn't pick up on the cues, or if you don't feel you can even stand to have generic conversations with her, then you can always be direct.

But honestly, I am trying to keep in mind that while I cannot rewrite history, or change the world, I can do my part to model bridge building and respectful interactions ESPECIALLY with the people with whom I most vehemently disagree (as long as they are also respectful of course.)  So I am trying to consciously reach out to people who support Trump to have respectful discussions.  It isn't easy - for either side - but I think the country needs more of that kind of discussion.

So maybe that's worth keeping in mind with your neighbor.

Good luck.[/quote]

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