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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What are all these activities that a 7 year old doesn't like?  I'm not really getting that.  Unless the party is do your math homework.[/quote]

You'd be surprised.  One of my DS's friends didn't come to his bday party because it was in the pool and the boy didn't know how to swim.  The boy is 9 years old.

DD's friend didn't come to the mobile spa party because she "doesn't like anything touching her nails."  [/quote]

That's what I thought of. DS had a fear of water and didn't learn to swim until 8. He was embarrassed when he was invited to pools and couldn't go with friends. He didn't want it to be obvious he couldn't swim. That was his final motivation to learn to swim, not all of the lessons to try to learn for safety reasons.[/quote]

I posted earlier about my DS with a fear of swimming. He didn't resolve his fear until 10. It was severe and very embarrassing for him. His first pool party after resolving it, they gave a swim test for the deep end. He could swim but not a full length required to pass. He sat on the edge of the pool and told everyone he didn't feel like getting in because all the action was in the deep end. He was so upset when I picked him up. As a result, he was motivated to practice last summer until he had the stamina to swim a length. I think everyone assumes most kids enjoy the pool and can swim and it's just not the case. I would never send a child to a pool party with a fear of the water or if they couldn't swim. [/quote]

I totally agree!  It was my 8 yo and I never sent him until he was older and wanted to attend.  He wanted to hang out with friends so badly but was also so afraid before he was comfortable in the water..  People underestimate and minimize fear.  OP - I wish we knew the party venue instead of all of us guessing.  [/quote]

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