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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I called him. I don't regret telling him before that I didn't like what he said but I really wish I had done it with more sensitivity. When I called him this time, it was a difficult conversation because he was feeling very hurt. Based on some of his past comments and his reaction to my blunder, I'm beginning to wonder if he's in love with me or at least has real feelings for me. We are in the same social circle and have known each other socially for some time.

I'm sure I'll make other mistakes as I get back into dating but that would be easier with guys I've just met, who don't care. I don't want to hurt someone who possibly feels emotionally connected to me so I should probably end this..but I like him and don't want to.

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Stop worrying about tomorrow and deal with today. You like him. He likes you. Pursue it and see where it goes. Deal with the warts when they pop up instead of trying to anticipate them or creating them. Relax. Enjoy.[/quote]

Thanks for the. When I spoke with a girlfriend about everything she said almost the same thing. She said I'm trying to anticipate what if scenarios to avoid heartbreak but I should instead enjoy the moment, dealing with issues as they arise. This is the first time I've engaged in a sex chat with a guy so early, that's because I like him so much and he know how I feel. I'm going to stop trying to plan for what next scenarios and enjoy this experience, however long it lasts.

I'm not self-absorbed or conceited IRL. My friends say I'm very sweet and considerate to everyone- but there are other traits that annoy them, I'm sure. I'm confident because I've worked very hard since my divorce to build that confidence, with the help of a counselor. There was a time when I felt unattractive, worthless, deeply depressed and had no energy for friendships. I didn't want to get up in the morning, didn't want to speak with anyone new. With a lot of work I started feeling good about myself. I would never want to go back to the me that had zero self-esteem. For many years men rarely approached even though I was younger than I am now and I rarely made new friends. That's because I felt bad about myself and feeling no self-esteem kept people away. Now I get more people approaching me, men and women and I think it's because I'm confident, my energy is positive and that draws people to me. I do enjoy the attention I get from men, because it's an occasuinal reminder to me that I turned myself from a deeply negative place to positive and positive is better.

I don't expect that there's an endless supply of men but thanks to all of the counseling, I love myself and I know that I can be happy and fulfilled with or without a man in my life.[/quote]

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