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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let's back up a step even further. It appears to be completely normal, and actually expected, that a wife will lose her libido for her husband after having kids or during menopause.  I say expected because this situation is found as a fixture in sitcoms and literature.  (It's funny because it is true).

Why then do you think that women are being dishonest or disingenuous when then enter marriage with the expectation that things will rapidly cool off as their marriage gets longer? Why do men enter into a marriage contract when they can clearly see their parents, other relatives and adults, and in the media, that the sexual component of their marriage is likely to die, because their wife will stop wanting to have sex with them in the near or far future?

I think men and women are NOT changing the rules of engagement, but just fulfilling the path that is laid out for them by biology and society. By pretending he didn't know that his wife would stop wanting to have sex with him a man is being dishonest and misleading. He should not have married in the first place and continued to have an expectation of hot, abundant sex. He KNEW. He was TOLD. It was OBVIOUS.  Why he thought his marriage would be different is a question to ask. [/quote]

I see where you are going. And I will concede to each of your points. But along these same gender stereotype lines.... and in those same sitcoms (equally funny-because-true)

Men are not being dishonest or disingenuous when then enter marriage with the expectation that when she inevitably DOES lose interest that he will simply continue having sex with other women. Why do women enter into a marriage contract when they can clearly see their parents, other relatives and adults, and in the media, that the sexless wife problem is invariably solved by the man having an endless series of affair partners? By pretending she didn't know that her husband would be cheating, a woman is being dishonest and misleading. She should not have married in the first place and continued to have an expectation of his fidelity once she loses interest. She KNEW. She was TOLD. It was OBVIOUS.  Why she thought her marriage would be different is a question to ask. [/quote]

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