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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pp poster (the one who started the post with I think it’s patience).  Also have to let your wife know how important sex is to you.  I’m not sure I knew until i heard it and really processed it.

Take up that challenge where you do everything she does for a year and let us know how you fare.[/quote]

No no no, she [i]chooses[/i] to do a lot of things - kids’ school, kids’ ballet, church stuff - that I am not going to even attempt to do after working 50 hours a week. That’s her choice; she is choosing to be overloaded, to fail.[/quote]

yes she should give up things she likes, like the church and stop being a good mom. [/quote]

I have to say that I would be receptive if my husband told me that he felt like kids' ballet and church stuff was causing problems in our marriage or our family because he wanted to spend more time at home together or he just wanted to see me more relaxed at the end of the day.  
Sometimes I take on stuff because of social pressure to take it, and I just keep doing it out of habit and this sort of belief that I can do more than other people can.  I would definitely take a hard look at my to do list if DH thought it was causing an issue.  [/quote]

I think it is true in some cases. A lot of women load themselves with unnecessary chores just because friend's kid doing ballet, soccer, etc. even if it is not the best choice for her family. For example, my neighbor drives the kid to gymnastics 20 miles away in the rush hour in a heavy traffic, because the gym that is 2 miles away from our house is not good enough for her Larla. Then she complains that her husband won't  help with that. I am totally on husband's side. I would not drive in that direction in the rush hour at all. I think been home in the evening for your husband, other kids and not been tired from sitting in a traffic is more important for the family wellbeing than Larla's success in gymnastics. But women pushing it to the edge until it is too late. [/quote]

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