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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can't the sister ask the coach what the ramifications would be for missing the game up front/essentially ask for son to be excused?  I think the son can deal with the fallout. Challenges and frustrating situations are part of life. So are family and celebrations![/quote]

HS coaches don't talk to parents in general. The kids are suppose to do all the negotiating for themselves. They are in HS not Kindergarten.[/quote]

And THAT is the issue.  Kids don't have the balls to go in and say they have a family obligation out of town.  So they cry to their parents that they will be benched all year and parents think of all the money and effort they have put in themselves, get fearful that could be the reality and give in.  Let the kid NOT talk to the coach and go to the tournament instead.  The parent takes the fall-out.

So yes, HS kids still need to be treated like K students sometimes.  I would follow up with coach via email to make sure my child actually talked to the coach correctly about the situation and everyone was on the same page.  [/quote]

Easier said than done. HS students need to deal with the coach and deal with the fall out. Sometimes teens make bad decisions and there are consequences but you can't soften the blow every single time. No, HS students never need to be treated like K students. Maybe the parents can coach the HS student on how to talk to a coach but in 4, 3, 2, 1 short year(s) they will be in college. Are you going to call their professor too?[/quote]

The point is that HS kids rather not talk to a coach so they beg parents to let them miss anything for sports claiming they would be benched for the entire season - and parents really believe it. [/quote]

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