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[quote=Anonymous]Op, I haven’t read all the comments, but I’ve seen enough of the ones shaming you and telling you that you are an a-hole for being upset about your wife being 40 lbs overweight.
First off- I am a woman. I think you are completely justified in being upset by this. I’m sure you have a lost  all attraction to her. She is not taking care of herself and to you that feels like she doesn’t care about you or the marriage. 
I understand how you feel. 
I’m am going to guess that she is depressed and is self medicating through booze and food. She needs a therapist and you both  need marriage counseling to figure out why in fact so depressed that she’s just giving up all self care. 
All these people who are giving you suggestions of working out yourself and hoping she will magically just get with the program- I’m sure mean well- but if your wife is this far gone , I don’t think she gives a damn if you are in shape or not.

She needs a severe wake up call- so that she realizes it is not ok for her to just completely give up on taking care of herself. Not only does it make her less attractive - it’s actually really bad for her health. So she is not only neglecting you but also her children.
It’s hard to not be pissed off and feel like your wife has just given up- but like I said, something is wrong and this is how she is dealing with it. Unfortunately the side effects of too much food and booze is a lot of extra weight gain. 
I do think you need to confront her- but carefully.

Maybe saY you are concerned about her health, the amount she is drinking and that you feel a disconnect.  
If she just ignores you she refuses to get help.. we’ll then that’s when more serious talks need to take place. I think a lot of marriages deal with this. You aren’t alone i feeling this way. But I do not agree with people telling you to just grin and bear it- it’s a problem that needs confronting. [/quote]

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