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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think most posters here have DCs in HS. There is a pervasive sense that all HS kids have to "play a sport" to get into college. Not true, but whatever. So this gives the coaches much too much power and they abuse it. So here is OPs DD a freshman on a competitive team. If she misses it, she will sit on the bench until she learns her "lesson" This comes from the baby boomers kids bulge. Hopefully, as time goes on this trend will end. But for right now, OP is stuck. Also it is freshman year for OPs DD. After sophomore or junior year, DCs have gotten their letters and they can drop the sport, having filled their resumes for college. Creepy and unfair, but there it is.[/quote]

Not true. My daughter missed a tournament for her uncle's wedding and was never on the bench. We knew about the wedding a year in advance. When the schedule came out she told her coach her whole family would be out of town for her uncles wedding. Would this be a problem? Is there anything extra she can do to help? I also sent an email to the coach and cc'd the director of athletics and the principal of the school.  All we got back is no problem, thanks for letting us know in advance.  She was never on the bench when she came back. She stayed late 2x the following week to practice extra. Her own doing.   Kids that are talented and have poise and confidence will be just fine. If you think your coach is god, can't speak up, always have your tail between your legs or lie to avoid confrontation/getting benched - your coach will bench you more for that then anything else. [/quote]

I agree. I think this is more the parents don't want their child to miss it and the "opportunity' more than the fear of the coach.  I have 3 kids all in plenty of rec, club JV and varsity sports (private and public) and never found one coach so crazy to bench a child for missing a family event like a wedding.

Have the kid talk to the coach in advance, the parent send an email to everyone that would play a part in a possible scenario of the coach "threatening" no playtime and go to your family event.  I mean if you really have a child that fearful of a coach, why is he even playing?  Doesn't sound enjoyable to me.

Plus, couldn't the sister have told the coach, the nephew is IN the wedding party?   "We really hate to miss XX tournament but Johnny has an obligation as a groomsmen in his Aunt's wedding"

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