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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can't the sister ask the coach what the ramifications would be for missing the game up front/essentially ask for son to be excused?  I think the son can deal with the fallout. Challenges and frustrating situations are part of life. So are family and celebrations![/quote]

This is what I thought too. Maybe part of OP's issue is if the sister did not even "pursue all options" to see if it could work. The sister saying "he has a tournament and can't miss it unfortunately" is different than saying "okay this got screwed this up and we are going to talk to the coach today and see if there is any way he can miss the tourney or better understand the implications and unless it's a catastrophic impact he will be there for your wedding".

Based on the comments on this thread, I wonder if parents are coming from a place of fear and presumption and not wanting to even check with the coach. Fear that it is somehow disrespectful or shows the lack of commitment to the team just by asking the question.

I'm the PP who thinks this all applies to many activities. I don't see sports as that unique. I imagine some of the same stuff for musical instruments and theater and the like. Sports is different in that it's so much more widespread and the societal messages (pedestal) about it and then also parents may get crazier about it because of this. [/quote]

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