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The update is that the baby is home with her. My oldest son is staying with the younger one this whole week. Younger son came by yesterday morning ahead of the snow and picked up a bunch of the stuff I accumulated in the last several days. The plan is for my two sons to drive to her address and deliver it all.

My son was supremely unhappy with me that I had told his adult sister about the baby (she lives at my address) but it was otherwise kind of hard to explain why the front hall was suddenly filled with diapers car seat cases of formula. He’s also not thrilled that I helped his gf fill out the birth certificate she needed to complete before discharge on Saturday (by text) his place of birth, social etc.

A paternity test has not been completed yet, but he’s not contesting it.

Right now I’ve done about all I can and it’s my turn to step back. He doesn’t want me to do anything else for the time being and I just said I hear you, I respect that and I understand. He’s got to grow up fast and my presence and involvement at this particular time isn’t helping that move forward.

Still a lot of questions about how this happened. Yes bc pills are hormonal birth control but you can skip pills, it’s not as reliable as as something like an implant or an IUD. I once got pregnant while on birth control. My neighbor got pregnant with an IUD in place. They couldn’t remove it without jeopardizing the pregnancy so she carried the IUD all the way up through delivery.

My ex is still somehow of the mind that this was all planned on her part, but I don’t really see how no prenatal care and continuing to live the life of a mid 20s with a social life is some kind of master plan. She could have had the same result just announcing early and refusing to terminate.

This is the most traumatic “master birth plan” I could come up with.

Like a lot of women I’ve been pregnant before so there are definitely lots of other questions but I am not the one who needs to be asking them.

The easiest part of right now is that I’m not involved in caring for a newborn. All I did is buy stuff. The harder part is having to sit back and do the “nothing else” part he asked of me. Can’t tell anyone else. I live in fear of my ex MIL somehow getting wind of this and asking me questions I literally can’t answer. I’m mostly just planning on not responding, since I can’t come up with any response in my head that doesn’t violate my son’s privacy and give up the game.

The baby’s mom has been texting me pictures. He’s a lovely baby. You could swap any picture of Kevin out with my son as a newborn. Identical head shape, features, expression, light hair (she’s got dark brown hair).

Anyway, hope everyone survived the snow, it looks like we have around 2 feet. Nothing to do but hang out.

Peace out! OP[/quote]

Utter BS

32 weeks??

And you filled out paperwork?

Your son is an adult what is wrong with you? [/quote]

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