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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wish I could afford to stay home and be a mother and wife. Instead, I’m paying someone else to spend whole days with my child while I work at a career that is meaningless to me.

Being a mother is not “just” being a mother. People can love being a mother the same way another woman might love being a lawyer. Parents can prioritize being present for their kids over spending most of their time focused on furthering their career or just earning a paycheck. [/quote]

But can't you do both? It' a false choice at times. Not always, but at times.

I heard someone use the term "full time mother' the other day -- I know what they meant, but are we not all full time mothers? [/quote]

Look, I'm a working mom, and I get what you are saying -- I don't stop being mom when I work. But obviously someone who is at home taking care of kids all day has made mothering their "full time job" and I would not be offended by someone who described themselves that way. It doesn't mean I'm a "part-time mom." It's not a commentary on me at all -- I have a different situation and can describe my life as makes sense to me. But if a SAHM calls herself a full-time mom because she literally does the work of motherhood all day long, I have zero issue with that.

I was a SAHM for 18 months after my DD was born (sort of a forced long maternity leave due to a job change) and yes, that was a full time job. I did it all day. Especially once I got past those early days with the long naps and the baby who just eats/sleeps/poops, it is WORK chasing after a little kid all day, and people who do it with multiple kids are entitled to describe it as work. If they didn't do it, they'd have to pay someone else to do it. Full time.[/quote]

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