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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I like how the OP is conveniently avoiding talking about her sockpuppeting. She has no credibility, and to be perfectly honest, comes off as incredibly stupid, and posting to simply create more waves (she couldn’t tell DH’s twin sisters apart? Couldn’t tell that the maid was not a member of the family? WTF?).[/quote]

Op here. I had to look up sockpuppet because I am unfamiliar with what that means in online forums. I may not have included I am the OP sometimes when I answer questions, but I haven't been saying I am Indian or Bangladeshi or identifying myself as a completely different person. I have two young kids and have been posting while being very distracted. I don't post or read this forum often. I found it five or so years ago when we were looking for a PT nanny. I came back for advice before this trip. There aren't as many Bangladeshi communities in the US as Indians, so it's hard to get basic details. Most of DH's family doesn't speak English, and none of his family lives in the US.  I have been shocked and saddened by how condescending and disrespectful people are on this forum.

For people who are supposed to be highly educated, I am surprised they can't come up with an informed, intelligent, and sensible response. This is one of the things I love about Bangladesh. People do not seem mean-spirited at all. It doesn't make them feel good to put others down. They aren't spending their time looking for trouble online or obsessively looking at Facebook selfies of themselves. I think I will join them and live my life offline as much as possible because people say and do strange things when no one is around. Bangladesh may be underdeveloped in many ways, but they seem to have the happiness thing down, and I think it's because they understand a very fundamental thing, i.e., not to put others down. Isn't that all what we are seeking anyway? This is a huge difference my husband has tried to make me understand. According to him, Bangladeshi people are more humble and simple, and I don't think they sit around gossiping about others, putting people down. I see that with my sisters-in-law. It's not in their culture to do that. They try to think the best about others.

And for the people interested in Aarong, please know they ship to the US, and shipping is free if you spend more than $120. They have some really neat t-shirts and sweaters for kids, and the quality is really good!! They have spunky looks and also lots of polos that are preppy. You could have an entire wardrobe for your kids, probably minus maybe jeans and shorts for less than $100. Their collared shirts are also really fun... I love the prints for boys!! I don't have girls, but I am sure their clothing is also nice. I am referring to Western clothes for kids, but the website has both.

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How can you possibly know how happy they are when you keep saying you can’t understand anything anybody is saying?

Also, assuming that poor people are happier because their lives are “simpler” is incredibly myopic and privileged. You have no idea of the challenges they may face.[/quote]

I didn't say anything about poor people vs rich people. You can see facial expressions even if you don't speak the language. There are a lot of Bengali people who do speak English here. Overall I find them to be pretty relaxed and they appear to be happy. They spend more time doing the everyday things we kind of forget about in the US. It's common for people to sit and have tea for example. My husband's family spends very little time watching tv. They are busy cooking or talking to other family members. Most aren't driving anywhere themselves and I think that's less stressful. It's only a few dollars to take a rickshaw or an auto car (battery-operated car). I can't speak for the poor people but my husband thinks they are happier. He says here people take off work a lot because a lot of them work for themselves. The rickshaw drivers don't seem frustrated. They aren't rolling their eyes at people. People aren't walking as fast here. Overall it seems they are less stressed.

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