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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No Asian American woman in my family went to an Ivy, yet we've all found careers we love ranging from the arts, publishing, non-profit work, forestry, military and business.

OP, you don't need anyone else's approval. [b]Life is too short to spend today in misery.[/b] Explore your options and do what YOU want to do.[/quote]

I am almost certain you're a troll. Asian American women going into forestry or the military? LOL.

Also, saying that life is too short to spend today in misery is the antithesis of the Asian mindset. The whole Asian immigrant mindset, which I immensely admire, is that you're SUPPOSED to sacrifice your life in order to set the next generation up for success. If OP leaves Columbia, she breaks that self-sacrificing mindset and becomes yet another navel-gazing college drop out. Her life will be so much harder and her own kids will never forgive her.

All this to say, OP, that I'm going to be telling you something your parents have probably been telling you for your whole life: Your childhood and young adulthood aren't supposed to be fun and enjoyable. They might even be miserable. [b]This is okay, because the whole purpose of your life from 0 to 30 is to set yourself and your kids up for success for the next 50 years. [/b]

Stay at Columbia!!![/quote]

Assuming this isn't a troll, this is obviously not somebody you should relate to. They claim your life is to set up your kids for success.[b] I don't feel like that's your goal. [/b]If you [b]want[/b] to set up your kids to have an awful upbringing like you did and maybe give yourself a pill addiction, maybe Columbia is your best route. [b]But maybe if you just want to teach kids about moss, you can afford to take a different path.[/b] [/quote]

PP here. Asian immigrant culture dictates that OP's goal is to sacrifice for the next generation and set her kids up for success. I find the Asian way much more effective and fulfilling in the long-term than the American way of chasing short-term happiness and "satisfaction" -- choosing what makes you "happy" never works because happiness is always fleeting and short-term (there's lots of psychological research on this).

The Asians are right that the most fulfilling way to live is to set up the next generation up for success and honor your parents' sacrifices. If OP doesn't do that (which dropping out of Columbia would ruin), she's throwing away her whole life. Also, OP's upbringing wasn't "awful" -- she had caring parents who pushed her academically to get into Columbia!

And did you forget the part where OP says her parents make $200k/year? That's solidly middle class in California. She cannot "afford to teach kids about moss" -- that's for rich kids with parents who will pay their first downpayment.

OP, the posters here are wealthy white people oblivious to their privilege. Stay at Columbia. [/quote]

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