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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - what you are feeling right now is not how you will feel forever.  I promise you things are so so so different (and mostly better) once you are fully an adult.

[b]I am an earlier poster where I said one of the sever sisters might be good for you.[/b]  I really meant that - and listen when I say - they will welcome you later in life too.  You don’t need to rush into anything.

Not all places are like Columbia - I promise you.  But I also don’t feel “lesser” than just bc I didn’t do Ivy.  I am now much more successful than many, many Ivy grads.

You have no idea how much better things can be and you don’t need Columbia.  I promise.[/quote]

I just know reading this comment that PP is a white woman oblivious to her privilege.

OP, do NOT pay attention to this comment at all. First, it's highly unlikely a Seven Sisters will accept you, and second, even if you are accepted, you'll probably have to take out more loans than if you stayed at Columbia.

But more importantly -- and I'm speaking as a middle-class Asian woman to OP (another middle-class Asian woman) -- woman from our demographic are GREATLY ENHANCED by the Ivy pedigree. From my experiences in the workplace, having an Ivy undergrad helps us IMMENSELY. You will get MUCH further in your career if you have a BA from Columbia than if you had a BA from a place like Smith; anyone who denies this is simply gaslighting the professional experiences of most middle-class Asian-American women.

OP, you MUST stay at Columbia no matter what. You ABSOLUTELY HAVE to graduate from there, or else you'll deeply regret leaving for the rest of your life. DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GRADUATE FROM THERE!

Also OP, you should really try to appreciate being at Columbia more. It's a great school -- one that 99% of Americans would kill to get into. You need to be more grateful for what you have (which will help abet your suicidality). Besides, if you think undergrad at Columbia in a (frankly, easy) major is hard, then imagine your life after graduation. The working world (and being an adult in general) is MUCH, MUCH harder than being in college. Enjoy what you have now, because your life will get harder after graduation. [/quote]

How dare you tell a suicidal young woman that life is just going to get harder and harder. This whole thread is vile! Somebody help this girl![/quote]

It's just one vile poster who I'm beginning to suspect is actually OP's mother. Either way, they are cut from the same cloth. There are many supportive posters here, and then this one person who is bizarrely invested in making OP feel terrible for feeling terrible and wanting to break away.

I'm one of the middle class Asian women PPs and I have plenty of middle/UM class female Asian friends. They have jobs in DoD, biotech, environmental science (similar to forestry someone else mentioned?), state department, marketing at a big company, NIH, accountant, an environmental non-profit... and those are just off the top of my head. None of them went to an Ivy that I know of, but to be fair I only know where half went to college. I guess it never came up with the others.

Ironically, the one thing that pulls us all together is complaining about conservative, crazy parents and in-laws :lol:

People are changing, cultures are changing. OP's parents and the crazy poster are a dying breed, and good riddance. [/quote]

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