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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My real reason is the same reason I said out loud to anyone who asked at the time. It's not like I secretly thought one thing and did another. My kid's preK teacher recommended it for social reasons. My DS was in intensive speech therapy and was having trouble making himself understood by peers and that affected his ability to make friends. My teacher friends told me that since he could already read I was doing him a disservice by having him in his nature/play-based preK another year. They were wrong. It was amazing for building his confidence and now, seeing how academic and sedentary public school is? I am thrilled I was able to give him another year of wild fun and play and social/emotional learning. Not happening in public school![/quote]

Does it make you proud that he's outperforming kids a year younger than him?[/quote]

I am proud of him, but that’s not what you’re asking.  I suppose I was probably too proud of his “maturity” in elementary school- he was being praised for listening/sitting still etc when his peers were so much younger than him. You’re right- that wasn’t great of me. In terms of his academics, he has been very successful- 99% from day one and accepted to all of the magnet stuff in our school district. But the older he’s gotten the more I realize it has nothing to do with me and my being proud of him has to do with whether he is being kind and not a d*ck to his peers- which he is. The academic success he’s had is I guess related to how he’s older, but it’s also just him - he’s truly gifted. If I’d held his sister back, for example, she would have done well but not like him. I am still glad I held him back because now he has friends. He’s a classic “nerd” and needed the extra boost of being a little taller than the other kids (at Rec bball- don’t worry he’s not taking anyone’s sports spots!). But now he’s in HS and there are plenty of kids who are just as big as him, and in his magnet program, plenty of kids who give him a run for his intellectual money. In the end, I am happy I did what was right for my kid. I’m sorry if you or other people are angry that he took a spot somewhere you wanted for your kid, but isn’t that life? My DS is going to get the short end of the stick in other areas of his life- he has a chronic illness for example that causes him daily pain and regular injections- but your anger at redshirting - then or now- wouldn’t make me make a different decision. Be happy for you kiddo- where they are! They are amazing and you are a good parent looking out for them, too. [/quote]

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