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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was often the room parent when my kids were in lower grades and  I used to send out emails at the beginning of the year detailing what activities, parties, food, teacher's gift we would have for the entire year.  I met with the teacher to draw out the plans (usually duplicating what was done in the previous years), and send an email and a signup genius link to all parents.  An email was sent every week for the first 6 weeks, listing the names of all the people who had contributed.  Within the first couple of weeks, all parents used to sent in their fixed $ contribution. We usually had a set number of celebrations, some  activities  and holiday teacher's gift.  We relied on some parents to make a costco run for the parties.

I did not want to  run after people to get money from them, so I made sure that all the funds were collected during the first few weeks of school. I sent emails every week for the first few weeks listing the names of people who contributed and those who still had to.  It was easy to write the reminder emails at the beginning of the year.

OP, being a room parent is a responsibility not a popularity contest. You need to be blunt and make sure that everyone contributes at least a minimum agreed upon amount. If people want to contribute more it is up to them, but the fixed amount contribution is mandatory. [/quote]

Wow, this is really shitting.  You called out the people who didn't contribute?  You're pretty rude to even gripe about it behind their backs, but you are an awful person for shaming them in a group email.

- a room mom[/quote]

Agreed. It is terrible to keep track and call out people like that.
Our teacher gave us room parents a form letter for the class donation which we adapted. In it she asked us to keep track of amounts but not who donated. I think that was best.[/quote]

+1!

If a room parent in my DC’s class sent out a class wide email naming families who didn’t give money, I would think very poorly of that room parent, not of the parents who didn’t (for whatever reason) contribute![/quote]

That is really inappropriate to keep track of who gives and who does not.  I would never agree to that (nor do I even keep track).  Either we get the money or sign ups and if we don't I pay.[/quote]

I can’t believe you did this.  So rude.  I would think horrible of you as well- not the families who didn’t contribute[/quote]

Its horrible I pay for the parties if we don't get enough donations or I don't feel like bothering to ask for donations because of how people are?  Yes, what a terrible person I am.[/quote]

But you're at least getting a list of the FARMs kids so you're not publicly shaming parents who may not be able to fund your elementary school party planning dreams, right?  Or did you already get rid of the "poors" from your kids school because no one who needs that $30 for groceries more than a slice of Domino's and another Oriental Trading Company craft that gets thrown out in the next cleaning purge should come within classroom distance of your kid, right?

I'm kind of embarrassed for you that you couldn't find a solution that didn't involve publicly shaming people who didn't pony up for pointless classroom parties.  Your options aren't extort money or pay for it yourself.  Maybe "how people are" is more of a reaction to you and your tactics - our veteran class mom seems to be doing quite well using honey rather than an acid attack.[/quote]

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