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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is out of control. I'm so tired of the mommy wars. I see you everyday in my profession (ped). I see miserable moms who WOH, and see miserable moms who SAH. I see miserable kids whose parents WOH, and I see miserable kids whose parents SAH. I see happy kids whose parents provide them a safe place to live, structure, food, and love. I see happy kids whose parents aren't on their phones texting all the time (I see this with SAHMs more than WOHMs). You have to do what works best for your family.

I'd love for the OP to spend a day at work with me, watch her judge people-- she has NO idea why people make certain choices. NEVER judge a single mom- I had a patient who married the love of her life only to have her husband die in Afghanistan last year leaving her with four children. She's working now, and some of her kids are in childcare. And they are thriving. Not everyone is someone's baby mama. Only working so they can shop at Nordstroms? A nurse at our practice could have retired years ago, but the only reason she is still working is because her mother requires round the clock care that insurance doesn't cover and she isn't independently wealthy. I have some patients who have a parent working to afford special need healthcare expenses that aren't covered by insurance, not to have the latest and greatest. You really have no idea what is going on in the lives of most people, which is why there is no point in judging.

My own kids are in childcare four days a week. If they weren't, you wouldn't get an appointment with me after 2pm, which would mean you'd have to pull Larla out of school to see me, and take off work yourself. Doesn't seem to make much sense, right? Or I guess in your world I shouldn't even be working, had gone to school all those years- I should be home clipping coupons, depending on my husband (God forbid he were to get laid off or in an accident) for everything, sewing our clothes, and homeschooling. GET A JOB. [/quote]

Um, hang on a sec. You come here to be the voice of reason, all "can't we all just get along?" and then at the end you hit us with "clipping coupons, depending on my husband for everything, sewing our clothes, and homeschooling. GET A JOB."

As a SAHM who spends all day caring for and educating (not homeschooling) her children, fuck you. Troll.[/quote]

I had the same reaction. I worked when we had one child, now stay at home because our second has some major health issues. I was the main breadwinner for the first ten years of my marriage (DH was pursuing a PhD, then starting in his field). But I guess I walk into her line of sight, and she looks at me and thinks "mooch." I wonder if this is my neighbor who is a pediatrician - she's had no problem asking me to help out with her kids when her center closes unexpectedly. The first paragraph sounds like something I've heard her say before...

Whomever she is, I'd hate to be a SAHM with children in her practice.[/quote]

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