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You really have no clue about divorce/custody and looking to argue.  Yes, my kids are on the advanced track.  It's sad you cannot help them with homework.  The discussion is about divorce/visitation and a parent who only gets 4 days a month and the mother is refusing the four days.  You have no idea what it's like just seeing your child 4 days a month so stop acting like you understand.[/quote]

I admit I am looking to argue, because you are a very not nice person.

I do know about 17 year olds. The discussion was specifically about a 17 year old high school student and the relevant information about this age group is that the student was being required to move 90 minutes away 50% of the weekend time. Away from friends, away from sports, away from clubs and weekend jobs, and that the dad in question didn't seem to think that was a concern at all, didn't try to make it possible for the 17 year old to have a car or transportation to be able to go back to the town he lived in in order to participate in all those things.

The entire discussion of a high school senior students' schedule then came up because I (and many others) said it was completely developmentally and emotionally normal for a high school student to spend the majority of his awake hours with friends not with parents at home.  You then come on and keep talking about how the most important thing for a 17 year old is to spend time with his parents, and that anyone whose kids don't do that have something wrong with them, must have a bad home life, etc.

[quote]You can help them with the college application process.  They should be done with financial aid by now.  Why aren't you spending time with them doing that?[/quote]

What is your problem with letting 17 year olds be independent? I don't NEED to help my student do her college applications. That was her job, she had to write all her essays.  I helped her of course with the FAFSA and the CSS Profile. (If you are divorced, I'm sure you know all about how hard that one will be.) Now it is time to write essays for scholarships - no, they are not all done yet; deadline for some is in May. But again, this is for her to do. I don't consider that I have to sit with her and spend time with her to get these things done.

[quote]Yes, we read over papers and support them.  My kids started Algebra in 6th, so I think most would consider them advanced.  They start AP classes in 9th grade, not wait till senior year.[/quote]

Yes, my kids also started APs in 9th grade. By senior year, mine were doing all their course work independently.

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