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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think most women are young and naive when they makes decision to become SAHM, it’s mostly due to circumstance and societal conditioning. Once they do, it becomes difficult to leave all the responsibilities, by the time kids are out of high school, they are in midlife or often peri menopause and it’s been so long they find it intimidating to go back to the world. With lack of experience and up to date certifications as well as advancement in their fields, all they can get it often not attractive enough to leave their psychological barriers. It’s not taken seriously by the society but there should be system in place to help them with this transition.[/quote]

Agree with this.  I’ve seen this happen to most UMC SAHMs I know.  When they quit their jobs, they seem naive to the longer term repercussions.  They end up taking on the bulk of housework and childcare and their husband is fully trained that their wife handles all of that.  Over time, they losing earning power while their husband continues to earn more money.  They end up in a position where it doesn’t make sense to return to work.

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And… what’s wrong with that? That woman got time with her children, is still married, still has a home and food. Maybe she thinks it was a good trade off.
I think it’s more naive when young women embark on “big careers” thinking they can do it all bc they are special.[/quote]
+1. It was a great tradeoff for us. If I were working full-time, DH would likely need to stay in gov't so he could do his share of household stuff and have work-life balance. Which means his salary caps somewhere north of $150k, while I was making $100k. Since I leaned out, he went private sector and now makes $350k and rising and our lives are so chill and relaxed. Our retirement and college savings are all on track. We are incredibly lucky. Just because we made a different choice than many of you, doesn't mean it's bad and doesn't mean your choices aren't the best for you. [/quote]

If it works for you, enjoy your blessings. If you want change at some point, find your new balance. You got nothing to prove to anyone nor have a need to live your life to fit into society’s perfect minion mold. [/quote]

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