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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What's wrong? 2 yrs ago he tells me he's functionally illiterate and my being pissed and feeling stupid for not knowing.

Early on I took care of all details concerning money, retirement planning, buying house, taxes, insurance...all the stuff that matters for a stable future. When kids came along, I could still handle it all until my career took off and kids moved into teenage years and needed more than just him being their social secretary and chauffeur. As I asked him to take on some of the financial details and decisions for kids future (FAFSA, CSS Profile or just completing something of the darn forms for ANYTHING...he always needed "help" to get it done. Constantly asking, "can you show me". Nobody showed me a darn thing, I just got online and figured it out. Even our teenage kids got sick of him always asking for "help" to find this, or do that. Ugh!!.

I chalked it up to him being too lazy and it being my fault bcse I did it all before. I stayed bcse of kids and now that they are launched I told him I was leaving, he asked way, I gave list of reasons (all of which I had been saying for 8 YEARS!!). That's when he spills the beans that he CAN read, but doesn't know what a lot of stuff means. WTF? Was I so desperate for a mate 30 years ago that I could not see that?

He's a great dad and would give you the clothes off his back. He has no motivation and recently his self confidence and esteem seems to have left. However, he swears he is so HAPPY. What I see is a man happily content in his mediocrity. I knew it was truly over when I asked if he was going to find a literacy program and he said - why?  [/quote]

What does he do for a living? Did he ever move up at his job?[/quote]

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