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The one thing happy SAHMs that I know have in common is no matter how intelligent or well educated, they don't have a strong professional drive.[/quote]
Does this mean that high professional drive women don't have high drive to become mothers? If so, then why do they have kids?[/quote]
See, inferences like these are what make people think that stay at home moms aren't very smart. How exactly does your statement follow from hers, logically?[/quote]

Not the PP, but you must be joking.  The question is absolutely relevant, especially if we're to entertain the first statement, that SAHMs "don't have a strong professional drive."

I realize that it must be difficult to process the second question because it clearly hit a nerve (especially if you're the mom who had 50 hours/week of childcare).  But try reading slowly.  I know you can do it![/quote]

God, you're stupid. You didn't read about logical fallacy, did you?  The drive to become a mother is biological; working in no way interferes with the desire to be a mother. Educate yourself.[/quote]

I spent all of their waking moments with them until they started preschool. The thing that I love is my Kids bond- they grew up together and people constantly remark upon how close my kids are- they’re best friends. Could this have happened if they spent their days in different daycares? Maybe. Would they be as interesting and well rounded  if they didn’t grow up experiencing the world through the lenses of travel and having one or both parents present. . My kids are very well behaved because they have been learning how to live and act in the real world,  not inside 4 walls in a “classroom” with low pay workers.

If we didn’t think it was very obviously best in our family to have a SAH parent, , we wouldn’t have one.

I think it’s wonderful if working parents each get 3-4 hours a day with their kids. From reading threwads on here about people spending less than an hour per day with their baby is heart wrenching to me. It isn’t how we wanted to parent.

You're the person who uses 50 hours of childcare per week, right?  Sounds like your "desire to become a mother" was no more than your desire to check that task off your to-do list.  But sure, we believe you. Especially if you're the PP who keeps coming back to tell SAHMs what a poor choice they made and how if we're "secure in our choices," then criticism shouldn't bother us. I suggest you take your own advice.

It's curious that you're trolling a thread which has nothing to do with you, dontcha think? Kind of an insecure thing to do.
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Why is a dad considered a good parent if he is gone more than 40 hours a week for work, but not a mom?  Would you feel differently if I said I was gone from my kids for work for 47 hours a week, but instead of childcare, my husband was a SAHD?[/quote]

He probably isn't. I don't think that the solution is to have two uninvolved parents. [/quote]

Working full time is not the same as being uninvolved as a parent, even if the work is full time plus a commute.[/quote]

50 hours of childcare per week is de facto uninvolved. [/quote]

Disagree.  Every single person I know who works at my company, which requires 45 hours a week in the office, uses that much childcare/school time unless they have a SAHP. If we are ALL uninvolved, who is the default parent, or do you think school + aftercare is raising our kids?[/quote]

That's fine. We can disagree. This is the reason I stay home. I think kids benefit from a lot more time with parents. You don't. No issues from me. You are free to do as you wish and so am I. [/quote]

How many hours a day do you spend with your children, and how old are they? Do you homeschool? Do they have activities other than school that take them away from you?[/quote][/quote]

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