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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Depends on your energy level. I'm 35 with 2 and I wouldn't want to have one in my 40s. Just make sure you know what you are signing up for and don't be offended if people ask if you are grandma.

When I was a teacher, I had teenagers whose parents were my age. (I had toddlers at the time.)

You also need to think about your age from the child's perspective. You will be about 62/63 when he/she is about 20. Providing he/she has kids later in life, you won't  necessarily get to be a grandma. Just something to think about. My MIL only enjoyed her grandchild for a couple of years before she passed. My DH was her last child and he  married late in life and became a Dad at 33.[/quote]

Not being able to become a grandparent is a silly reason to decide not to have a child.  Maybe it might be a reason to decide to have your kids younger rather than waiting, but it's not a reason to not have kids at all.

Besides, you know the refrain: nothing in life is guaranteed. I have several aunts who had children early in life but never became grandmas because their kids have  never gotten married.

My paternal grandmother never got to meet any grandchildren because she died before any of them were born.

I may never get to see any grandchildren, or may be too old to be an active grandmother, but that will never make me regret having my kids.  They came later in life than I wanted because of fertility problems.  But I doubt they themselves will regret that we didn't have kids earlier, because then they wouldn't have been born.[/quote]

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