Yes

No.

I just had my first at 39 and find myself hoping for one more now that she is 2 months old. I find it entertaining how some people are so "sure" that 41 is too old to have a baby. I feel like starting this adventure now in my life has been the "secret sauce" for how much fun I am having with the first. I was 38 when I became pregnant with my baby, and I'm sure the pregnancy would have been a little easier if I had had a 22 year old body and bones but I think the place I am in in my life could not be better suited for being a great first time mother. I have more patience. I have traveled the world. I have built a successful career where I earn a good living and have the privilege of working from home frequently. I am well educated and got to be delightfully self-absorbed for many years. : ) I am enjoying every minute of the transformation that is motherhood. It is super hard work and I can't imagine how the 20 year olds out there manage it, given how much self discipline it takes to be a good mother. Of course I don't have anything to compare my experience to, but having a baby later in life has been a blessing for me and I wouldn't change a thing.

Anonymous wrote:Parents at college graduation.... hey, paying for it is over now....

Do you think we look older than the other parents? No, not at ALL! We look at least 15 years younger than we are.

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Anonymous wrote:Its HS graduation time ....

That's you on the left, and on the right is everyone else's mom....

the kid in the picture is 5-7. the mother is around 40.

Yes, it is a typical picture of a typical family age wise. No the kid is not old enough to graduate HS. Some brilliant minds on this forum.

41 is absolutely NOT too old. You do what is best for YOU!!

Had first at 38, second at 41. Husband is seven years older. The kids are both grown and doing well. We're doing well, too.

I had my first at 40 and 2nd at almost 43. They are now 27 and 24. This is the first year that I'm feeling a little older than other parents although I obviously look older. Go for it!

Anonymous wrote:Its HS graduation time ....

That's you on the left, and on the right is everyone else's mom....

the kid in the picture is 5-7. the mother is around 40.

I love being the oldest mom -- people think I am so wise.

Anonymous wrote:Depends on your energy level. I'm 35 with 2 and I wouldn't want to have one in my 40s. Just make sure you know what you are signing up for and don't be offended if people ask if you are grandma.

When I was a teacher, I had teenagers whose parents were my age. (I had toddlers at the time.)

You also need to think about your age from the child's perspective. You will be about 62/63 when he/she is about 20. Providing he/she has kids later in life, you won't necessarily get to be a grandma. Just something to think about. My MIL only enjoyed her grandchild for a couple of years before she passed. My DH was her last child and he married late in life and became a Dad at 33.

Not being able to become a grandparent is a silly reason to decide not to have a child. Maybe it might be a reason to decide to have your kids younger rather than waiting, but it's not a reason to not have kids at all.

Besides, you know the refrain: nothing in life is guaranteed. I have several aunts who had children early in life but never became grandmas because their kids have never gotten married.

My paternal grandmother never got to meet any grandchildren because she died before any of them were born.

I may never get to see any grandchildren, or may be too old to be an active grandmother, but that will never make me regret having my kids. They came later in life than I wanted because of fertility problems. But I doubt they themselves will regret that we didn't have kids earlier, because then they wouldn't have been born.

Anonymous wrote:Parents at college graduation.... hey, paying for it is over now....

45 is the new 30. Time to have some more kids.

Parents at college graduation.... hey, paying for it is over now....

Anonymous wrote:Its HS graduation time ....

That's you on the left, and on the right is everyone else's mom....

Gosh, high schoolers are getting younger and younger!

But you're right. Better for that kid never to have been born than to have such an ooooooollllllllldddddddd mother, huh? Because there's nothing grosser than a woman with white hair and glasses! How does she even look in the mirror every day? She should be home knitting stuff for other people's kids, clearly.

Its HS graduation time ....

That's you on the left, and on the right is everyone else's mom....