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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Divorce is not her only option. We have all been saying that she has two options: she can accept him for who he is (and maybe *then* they can figure out systems that will work for both of them as individuals, rather than systems that she desires that would work for only her), OR she can divorce.[/quote]

Did you actually think this needed explaining? Everyone understands what you’re saying: accept it or leave. And that accepting it will empower her to leave. That may work for you. But for many other posters, pointing out the inequality of her situation (and reminding her that she’s seeing it clearly) and that she doesn’t need to accept it is a far more direct pathway to action. Maybe she’ll leave, maybe she won’t, but it’s a lot better than telling her to continue eating sh#t with a spoon or divorce.[/quote]

Life is all about eating sh**t. You can chose the crap you know, learn to season it better. Or you can risk trying some new crap, which might initially taste good because it's new, but eventually it will wear off and you'll realize it's still crap. Even it's just sitting in your own crap.

And don't forget, we all crap and if you're in a relationship, your partner is also eating with your crap even if they aren't complaining. Maybe their tolerance is higher or they are able to keep themselves distracted enough to not be bothered. But its there. If your spouse doesn't see it, your kids certainly do. WE ALL HAVE IT.

That is the reality. Now, once you've accepted that eating other people's crap is part of existing...how can you manage without it making you sick?

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Unless you are OP's DH in case you can just opt out of entire genres of adult responsibilities for some reason.[/quote]

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