Anonymous wrote:I've been reading through this forum and have noticed a concerning trend of negative attitudes towards American cultural norms, like the tradition of taking a husband's last name, which is embraced by approximately 85% of women in the U.S. This practice is more than just a tradition; it's an integral part of our social and family structure.

Your participation in these discussions, marked by a dismissive stance towards American customs, is troubling. It's crucial to understand that expressing such negativity, especially in public forums, can have serious implications for your integration into American society. This attitude and visible disdain towards the U.S. could also adversely affect your visa status and the process of obtaining a green card.

While it's important to maintain your personal identity and beliefs, showing respect for the customs of your host country is essential when living in a new community. Publicly insulting these traditions can be seen in a negative light, possibly impacting your efforts to adapt to life in the U.S.

I encourage you to reconsider your approach and engage with cultural differences respectfully. Your experiences and viewpoints are important, but so is demonstrating a willingness to understand and integrate into the cultural context of your new home.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my country it’s unheard of women taking their husbands’ name. Even at my grandma’s time it did not happen (she got married 70 years ago).

I did not change my name when I married here in the US. My 3 kids have my DH’s name. We have had zero issues. People that think that it can be a problem are misinformed. My kids have traveled with me internationally multiple times, I am on all schools/doctors/sports forms, etc.

It really is a non-issue in practice.
I do find this tradition insulting to women and demeaning.
Thankfully, my husband whose previous wife took his name, did not care at all that I did not.

I really hope my daughters raised in the US will not be stupid to choose a man that values this ridiculous and backward tradition.

I'd like to remind you that you are in the United States, a country that has welcomed immigrants from around the world, including yourself. While it's important to express your opinions and perspectives, it's equally important to do so with respect for the host country and its values. Insulting language and derogatory comments don't contribute to productive discussions.

In the United States, it is the norm for women to take their husband's last name upon marriage, which aligns with the cultural practices of many first-world countries. This tradition is deeply rooted and has practical benefits, making it easier for various aspects of life, such as documentation and societal recognition. Instead of criticizing this tradition, let's engage in thoughtful and respectful dialogue to better understand each other's viewpoints and appreciate the cultural diversity that enriches this nation."

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been reading through this forum and have noticed a concerning trend of negative attitudes towards American cultural norms, like the tradition of taking a husband's last name, which is embraced by approximately 85% of women in the U.S. This practice is more than just a tradition; it's an integral part of our social and family structure.

Your participation in these discussions, marked by a dismissive stance towards American customs, is troubling. It's crucial to understand that expressing such negativity, especially in public forums, can have serious implications for your integration into American society. This attitude and visible disdain towards the U.S. could also adversely affect your visa status and the process of obtaining a green card.

While it's important to maintain your personal identity and beliefs, showing respect for the customs of your host country is essential when living in a new community. Publicly insulting these traditions can be seen in a negative light, possibly impacting your efforts to adapt to life in the U.S.

I encourage you to reconsider your approach and engage with cultural differences respectfully. Your experiences and viewpoints are important, but so is demonstrating a willingness to understand and integrate into the cultural context of your new home.

I am a birthright United States citizen and your thinly veiled Trumpist threats about my “green card” don’t scare me. They are also an embarrassment to the idea of America as a nation of laws. Get bent.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been reading through this forum and have noticed a concerning trend of negative attitudes towards American cultural norms, like the tradition of taking a husband's last name, which is embraced by approximately 85% of women in the U.S. This practice is more than just a tradition; it's an integral part of our social and family structure.

Your participation in these discussions, marked by a dismissive stance towards American customs, is troubling. It's crucial to understand that expressing such negativity, especially in public forums, can have serious implications for your integration into American society. This attitude and visible disdain towards the U.S. could also adversely affect your visa status and the process of obtaining a green card.

While it's important to maintain your personal identity and beliefs, showing respect for the customs of your host country is essential when living in a new community. Publicly insulting these traditions can be seen in a negative light, possibly impacting your efforts to adapt to life in the U.S.

I encourage you to reconsider your approach and engage with cultural differences respectfully. Your experiences and viewpoints are important, but so is demonstrating a willingness to understand and integrate into the cultural context of your new home.

LOL

I did not change my name and my family has been here for centuries. It hasn’t been a problem. Ever.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my country it’s unheard of women taking their husbands’ name. Even at my grandma’s time it did not happen (she got married 70 years ago).

I did not change my name when I married here in the US. My 3 kids have my DH’s name. We have had zero issues. People that think that it can be a problem are misinformed. My kids have traveled with me internationally multiple times, I am on all schools/doctors/sports forms, etc.

It really is a non-issue in practice.
I do find this tradition insulting to women and demeaning.
Thankfully, my husband whose previous wife took his name, did not care at all that I did not.

I really hope my daughters raised in the US will not be stupid to choose a man that values this ridiculous and backward tradition.

I'd like to remind you that you are in the United States, a country that has welcomed immigrants from around the world, including yourself. While it's important to express your opinions and perspectives, it's equally important to do so with respect for the host country and its values. Insulting language and derogatory comments don't contribute to productive discussions.

In the United States, it is the norm for women to take their husband's last name upon marriage, which aligns with the cultural practices of many first-world countries. This tradition is deeply rooted and has practical benefits, making it easier for various aspects of life, such as documentation and societal recognition. Instead of criticizing this tradition, let's engage in thoughtful and respectful dialogue to better understand each other's viewpoints and appreciate the cultural diversity that enriches this nation."

I’d like to remind you that virtually all of the United States occupies the ancestral lands of indigenous peoples, many of whom did not and do not observe what you refer to as “first-world practices” with respect to family naming. While it’s apparently important to you that you get to express your opinions and perspectives, it’s equally important that you do so with respect for the host peoples and their values. Behaving as though those peoples and traditions do not exist or are not relevant doesn’t contribute to productive conversations.

Indigenous naming traditions are deeply rooted and have practical benefits. You lecturing as if a subset of white European-originating practices are the only ones that matter is some racist bs.

First world practices? Iceland - no. Spain - no. Austria - no. France - not for legal documents or life events. Greece - no. Italy - no. Korea - no. Taiwan - no

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my country it’s unheard of women taking their husbands’ name. Even at my grandma’s time it did not happen (she got married 70 years ago).

I did not change my name when I married here in the US. My 3 kids have my DH’s name. We have had zero issues. People that think that it can be a problem are misinformed. My kids have traveled with me internationally multiple times, I am on all schools/doctors/sports forms, etc.

It really is a non-issue in practice.
I do find this tradition insulting to women and demeaning.
Thankfully, my husband whose previous wife took his name, did not care at all that I did not.

I really hope my daughters raised in the US will not be stupid to choose a man that values this ridiculous and backward tradition.

I'd like to remind you that you are in the United States, a country that has welcomed immigrants from around the world, including yourself. While it's important to express your opinions and perspectives, it's equally important to do so with respect for the host country and its values. Insulting language and derogatory comments don't contribute to productive discussions.

In the United States, it is the norm for women to take their husband's last name upon marriage, which aligns with the cultural practices of many first-world countries. This tradition is deeply rooted and has practical benefits, making it easier for various aspects of life, such as documentation and societal recognition. Instead of criticizing this tradition, let's engage in thoughtful and respectful dialogue to better understand each other's viewpoints and appreciate the cultural diversity that enriches this nation."

I’d like to remind you that virtually all of the United States occupies the ancestral lands of indigenous peoples, many of whom did not and do not observe what you refer to as “first-world practices” with respect to family naming. While it’s apparently important to you that you get to express your opinions and perspectives, it’s equally important that you do so with respect for the host peoples and their values. Behaving as though those peoples and traditions do not exist or are not relevant doesn’t contribute to productive conversations.

Indigenous naming traditions are deeply rooted and have practical benefits. You lecturing as if a subset of white European-originating practices are the only ones that matter is some racist bs.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been reading through this forum and have noticed a concerning trend of negative attitudes towards American cultural norms, like the tradition of taking a husband's last name, which is embraced by approximately 85% of women in the U.S. This practice is more than just a tradition; it's an integral part of our social and family structure.

Your participation in these discussions, marked by a dismissive stance towards American customs, is troubling. It's crucial to understand that expressing such negativity, especially in public forums, can have serious implications for your integration into American society. This attitude and visible disdain towards the U.S. could also adversely affect your visa status and the process of obtaining a green card.

While it's important to maintain your personal identity and beliefs, showing respect for the customs of your host country is essential when living in a new community. Publicly insulting these traditions can be seen in a negative light, possibly impacting your efforts to adapt to life in the U.S.

I encourage you to reconsider your approach and engage with cultural differences respectfully. Your experiences and viewpoints are important, but so is demonstrating a willingness to understand and integrate into the cultural context of your new home.

Yes, the DCUM Immigration Monitors will track you down and report you to the authoritis. Why, they might just put it on your permanent record.

“I’d like to remind you.” You culture deniers are in grave danger, I tell you what.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my country it’s unheard of women taking their husbands’ name. Even at my grandma’s time it did not happen (she got married 70 years ago).

I did not change my name when I married here in the US. My 3 kids have my DH’s name. We have had zero issues. People that think that it can be a problem are misinformed. My kids have traveled with me internationally multiple times, I am on all schools/doctors/sports forms, etc.

It really is a non-issue in practice.
I do find this tradition insulting to women and demeaning.
Thankfully, my husband whose previous wife took his name, did not care at all that I did not.

I really hope my daughters raised in the US will not be stupid to choose a man that values this ridiculous and backward tradition.

I'd like to remind you that you are in the United States, a country that has welcomed immigrants from around the world, including yourself. While it's important to express your opinions and perspectives, it's equally important to do so with respect for the host country and its values. Insulting language and derogatory comments don't contribute to productive discussions.

In the United States, it is the norm for women to take their husband's last name upon marriage, which aligns with the cultural practices of many first-world countries. This tradition is deeply rooted and has practical benefits, making it easier for various aspects of life, such as documentation and societal recognition. Instead of criticizing this tradition, let's engage in thoughtful and respectful dialogue to better understand each other's viewpoints and appreciate the cultural diversity that enriches this nation."

I’d like to remind you that virtually all of the United States occupies the ancestral lands of indigenous peoples, many of whom did not and do not observe what you refer to as “first-world practices” with respect to family naming. While it’s apparently important to you that you get to express your opinions and perspectives, it’s equally important that you do so with respect for the host peoples and their values. Behaving as though those peoples and traditions do not exist or are not relevant doesn’t contribute to productive conversations.

Indigenous naming traditions are deeply rooted and have practical benefits. You lecturing as if a subset of white European-originating practices are the only ones that matter is some racist bs.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been reading through this forum and have noticed a concerning trend of negative attitudes towards American cultural norms, like the tradition of taking a husband's last name, which is embraced by approximately 85% of women in the U.S. This practice is more than just a tradition; it's an integral part of our social and family structure.

Your participation in these discussions, marked by a dismissive stance towards American customs, is troubling. It's crucial to understand that expressing such negativity, especially in public forums, can have serious implications for your integration into American society. This attitude and visible disdain towards the U.S. could also adversely affect your visa status and the process of obtaining a green card.

While it's important to maintain your personal identity and beliefs, showing respect for the customs of your host country is essential when living in a new community. Publicly insulting these traditions can be seen in a negative light, possibly impacting your efforts to adapt to life in the U.S.

I encourage you to reconsider your approach and engage with cultural differences respectfully. Your experiences and viewpoints are important, but so is demonstrating a willingness to understand and integrate into the cultural context of your new home.

Yes, the DCUM Immigration Monitors will track you down and report you to the authoritis. Why, they might just put it on your permanent record.

Anonymous wrote:I've been reading through this forum and have noticed a concerning trend of negative attitudes towards American cultural norms, like the tradition of taking a husband's last name, which is embraced by approximately 85% of women in the U.S. This practice is more than just a tradition; it's an integral part of our social and family structure.

Your participation in these discussions, marked by a dismissive stance towards American customs, is troubling. It's crucial to understand that expressing such negativity, especially in public forums, can have serious implications for your integration into American society. This attitude and visible disdain towards the U.S. could also adversely affect your visa status and the process of obtaining a green card.

While it's important to maintain your personal identity and beliefs, showing respect for the customs of your host country is essential when living in a new community. Publicly insulting these traditions can be seen in a negative light, possibly impacting your efforts to adapt to life in the U.S.

I encourage you to reconsider your approach and engage with cultural differences respectfully. Your experiences and viewpoints are important, but so is demonstrating a willingness to understand and integrate into the cultural context of your new home.

Anonymous wrote:I've been reading through this forum and have noticed a concerning trend of negative attitudes towards American cultural norms, like the tradition of taking a husband's last name, which is embraced by approximately 85% of women in the U.S. This practice is more than just a tradition; it's an integral part of our social and family structure.

Your participation in these discussions, marked by a dismissive stance towards American customs, is troubling. It's crucial to understand that expressing such negativity, especially in public forums, can have serious implications for your integration into American society. This attitude and visible disdain towards the U.S. could also adversely affect your visa status and the process of obtaining a green card.

While it's important to maintain your personal identity and beliefs, showing respect for the customs of your host country is essential when living in a new community. Publicly insulting these traditions can be seen in a negative light, possibly impacting your efforts to adapt to life in the U.S.

I encourage you to reconsider your approach and engage with cultural differences respectfully. Your experiences and viewpoints are important, but so is demonstrating a willingness to understand and integrate into the cultural context of your new home.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my country it’s unheard of women taking their husbands’ name. Even at my grandma’s time it did not happen (she got married 70 years ago).

I did not change my name when I married here in the US. My 3 kids have my DH’s name. We have had zero issues. People that think that it can be a problem are misinformed. My kids have traveled with me internationally multiple times, I am on all schools/doctors/sports forms, etc.

It really is a non-issue in practice.
I do find this tradition insulting to women and demeaning.
Thankfully, my husband whose previous wife took his name, did not care at all that I did not.

I really hope my daughters raised in the US will not be stupid to choose a man that values this ridiculous and backward tradition.

I'd like to remind you that you are in the United States, a country that has welcomed immigrants from around the world, including yourself. While it's important to express your opinions and perspectives, it's equally important to do so with respect for the host country and its values. Insulting language and derogatory comments don't contribute to productive discussions.

In the United States, it is the norm for women to take their husband's last name upon marriage, which aligns with the cultural practices of many first-world countries. This tradition is deeply rooted and has practical benefits, making it easier for various aspects of life, such as documentation and societal recognition. Instead of criticizing this tradition, let's engage in thoughtful and respectful dialogue to better understand each other's viewpoints and appreciate the cultural diversity that enriches this nation."