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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I suspect the ones clamoring for grandchildren are also the least likely to help out with babysitting or to visit. They just want the status symbol of telling their friends how many grandkids they have and don't want to help out current parents in a world that has made it much harder to raise children than they experienced.[/quote]

Why should we help out? Our parents did not help us neither did any previous generation parents since dawn of time.

My grandparents had 8 kids and we lived 3,000 miles away yet somehow my mom had four kids and me three kids. Today the precious snowflakes wit two kids except both grandparents helping, daycare, babysitters, after school programs, summer camps. Raise your own damn kids.

All I ask, marry well, have 2-3 kids, buy a house and have me over thanksgiving, Xmas, kids birthday parties. I am not your servant. I raises my kids.

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Oh yes let me bully my my children into having grandchildren that I will ignore all year and then want to socialize twice a year for the culturally mandated times when you're expected to want to spend time with family and then go back to ignoring them.

Isn't the point of wanting to have grandchildren is wanting to have a relationship with the grandchildren?

Involved in your grandchildren's life does not mean that you are raising them for the parents. I am absolutely willing to bet that you op hired childcare at some point. And if you didn't it's not like you're going to get some magical gold star for never hiring a babysitter or having family help out[/quote]

OP for my three kids I never hired a babysitter or had childcare once. We saw grandparents at our house or a venues for bigger events when we threw birthday parties, baptisms, communions, sweet 16s and graduations. They did host Xmas each year and we went over their Mother’s Day, Father’s Day and their birthdays. They raised their kids not their job to raise our kids. [/quote]

My parents and my husband's parents have offered to take care of their grandchildren on occasion because they actually enjoy spending time with their grandchildren and they understand the importance of parents having a break to go out for a childfree dinner or see a show. It's strange to me that you think that occasionally getting childcare is the same thing as expecting other people to raise your children and I'm sorry that you did not have support. Maybe that gave you a self aggrandizing attitude that you were the only person who could take care of your children [/quote]

You do realize people with multiple kids don’t have money for babysitters and date nights when kids young.

My parents dead and my in-laws have nine grandkids and one great grandkid. Plus they had jobs when kids little. My mother in law oldest grandchild was 23 when she retired. But some years I had three birthday parties, graduations, communions and Father’s Day Mother’s Day their birthdays I see them 10x a year. Thank god we are back to once a year!! We moved out of state.

I’m only met my grandparents twice in my life both before age of 8. But no worries I have 40 first cousins!!! And my grandparents never baby sat any of them!! [/quote]

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