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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents were legal immigrants here and we had absolutely nothing. I picked the college I wanted, the city I wanted, and when I got in, I went to that college. I worked, I borrowed money under my name, and got grants and scholarships and whatever I could scrape. I had a ton of loans but I’m paying them off.

Your daughter isn’t unhappy that DH isn’t paying for her, deep down she’s unhappy because by your actions and words you are forcing her to pick going to a college she doesn’t want to go. Young people don’t get the impact of loans, but they’re young, let them choose their path and you gave your advice. You should simply say pick the school you want, I’ll contribute what I can, ans the rest will be loans you’ll have to pay. Support her on her decision. Stop focusing on the step family and telling her to go to UMD. She wants a fun college a great name college a place she’s be proud and happy at. Give your advice about loans ans then let her go forth with that decision. [/quote]

I could have written this myself. This is also my exact story. I paid my student loans off (grad school included)to a brand name expensive private  college in about 7 years. With lots and lots of sacrifice. I made my decisions, went where I wanted to go, was and am happy with my choice. I would have been miserable with parents foreclosing my opportunities. Have someone teach her about personal finance and effects loans will have on her, but in no way should she be prohibited from schools she has a decent shot of being accepted into. It seems your attitude and approach to this step family situation may be the root of much blame I dare say.[/quote]

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