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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Re Tulane — I spent a lot of my life in NOLA. Tulane is already a very Greek party school and when you add Marci Gras to that you get a school that can really be too much socially for some kids. But extroverted, very socially comfortable kids can go there and love it. I have found when it comes to New Orleans people either love it or hate it with nothing in between. [/quote]

I have never been to a city that was more DRENCHED in alcohol. And I mean for adults visiting for business, not even college students.

Not my idea of a great place to send a kid living on their own for the first time. ..  while I am paying for them to learn.

But luckily, my kid never had any interest in it/the south. [/quote]

Back before Tulance make a move in the ranks, one of my friends who had serious  T1 diabetes went.  He promptly got plastered and died freshman year.  I will never understand what his parents are thing.  Yes, a kid who wants to drink with drink. But, campus culture matters too. And at the time, Tulane was one of the top 5 college for drinkers in the county. Why send a a T1 diabetic to a school where the whole social scene is alcohol? [/quote]

I was accepted to Tulane in the mid-90s.  I was a partier in high school and my dad became VERY worried about Tulane when he saw my enthusiasm and commitment to attending.  He instituted a full-scale push from family, friends, my boyfriend (who he hated!), teachers, everyone to push me towards another school he deemed “safer.”  Well, I finally caved and went to the other school, which had a similar social scene but wasn’t NOLA.  I swear my dad saved me. I had plenty of fun in college, too much really, and definitely had the capacity to go off the edge.  I was surrounded by good people who helped keep me wraith to and allowed me to mature.  I know deep-down that Tulane/NOLA would’ve ruined me.  So I agree that a parent really can be a huge influence/help in these matters.[/quote]

That’s the thing. If they write the tuition checks, parents can say no.  And this kids parents never did.  I’m not saying parents should say no in order to overly control the college choice.  But at some point, parents can say that they aren’t paying for a college that is a terrible idea.  My daiugter was interested in a SLAC and we said no early in the process because it has an unusually small endowment, declining enrollment, is cutting programs and can’t open during acOvId, almost certainly because they can’t draw down on the endowment to do do and stay above water. I think it’s a great school.  But, having a college merge or close is a bad thing. But, fortunately I have a kid I can talk to and she understood when I showed her the numbers.   And now herself asks how financially healthy colleges are. You have to with SLACs in 2021.

So you say no, your a T1 diabetic who has already had a health crisis after going to a party in Hs isn’t going to the most alcohol drenched private college in the country.  The alcohol culture puts that particular kid at so much increased risk over the student body.  And this kid showed no willingness to take his diabetes seriously.  It still makes me angry.  The kid should have known better but so should the parents.  Sometimes part of parenting is saying no.  Certainly it’s flagging issues like financial ability your kid won’t be looking for.  Sometime part of parenting a you adult is refusing to enable dangerous behavior. It’s not the fun part. But it’s a very important part. [/quote]

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