Anonymous
02/25/2021 08:50
Subject: What school dropped off the list because of your visit?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Re Tulane — I spent a lot of my life in NOLA. Tulane is already a very Greek party school and when you add Marci Gras to that you get a school that can really be too much socially for some kids. But extroverted, very socially comfortable kids can go there and love it. I have found when it comes to New Orleans people either love it or hate it with nothing in between.
I have never been to a city that was more DRENCHED in alcohol. And I mean for adults visiting for business, not even college students.
Not my idea of a great place to send a kid living on their own for the first time. .. while I am paying for them to learn.
But luckily, my kid never had any interest in it/the south.
Back before Tulance make a move in the ranks, one of my friends who had serious T1 diabetes went. He promptly got plastered and died freshman year. I will never understand what his parents are thing. Yes, a kid who wants to drink with drink. But, campus culture matters too. And at the time, Tulane was one of the top 5 college for drinkers in the county. Why send a a T1 diabetic to a school where the whole social scene is alcohol?
I was accepted to Tulane in the mid-90s. I was a partier in high school and my dad became VERY worried about Tulane when he saw my enthusiasm and commitment to attending. He instituted a full-scale push from family, friends, my boyfriend (who he hated!), teachers, everyone to push me towards another school he deemed “safer.” Well, I finally caved and went to the other school, which had a similar social scene but wasn’t NOLA. I swear my dad saved me. I had plenty of fun in college, too much really, and definitely had the capacity to go off the edge. I was surrounded by good people who helped keep me wraith to and allowed me to mature. I know deep-down that Tulane/NOLA would’ve ruined me. So I agree that a parent really can be a huge influence/help in these matters.
That’s the thing. If they write the tuition checks, parents can say no. And this kids parents never did. I’m not saying parents should say no in order to overly control the college choice. But at some point, parents can say that they aren’t paying for a college that is a terrible idea. My daiugter was interested in a SLAC and we said no early in the process because it has an unusually small endowment, declining enrollment, is cutting programs and can’t open during acOvId, almost certainly because they can’t draw down on the endowment to do do and stay above water. I think it’s a great school. But, having a college merge or close is a bad thing. But, fortunately I have a kid I can talk to and she understood when I showed her the numbers. And now herself asks how financially healthy colleges are. You have to with SLACs in 2021.
So you say no, your a T1 diabetic who has already had a health crisis after going to a party in Hs isn’t going to the most alcohol drenched private college in the country. The alcohol culture puts that particular kid at so much increased risk over the student body. And this kid showed no willingness to take his diabetes seriously. It still makes me angry. The kid should have known better but so should the parents. Sometimes part of parenting is saying no. Certainly it’s flagging issues like financial ability your kid won’t be looking for. Sometime part of parenting a you adult is refusing to enable dangerous behavior. It’s not the fun part. But it’s a very important part.
Anonymous
02/25/2021 08:46
Subject: Re:What school dropped off the list because of your visit?
American. And DD could give me absolutely no reason for why she disliked it other than that she got "bad vibes" lol but she hated it.
Anonymous
02/25/2021 08:45
Subject: What school dropped off the list because of your visit?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Re Tulane — I spent a lot of my life in NOLA. Tulane is already a very Greek party school and when you add Marci Gras to that you get a school that can really be too much socially for some kids. But extroverted, very socially comfortable kids can go there and love it. I have found when it comes to New Orleans people either love it or hate it with nothing in between.
I have never been to a city that was more DRENCHED in alcohol. And I mean for adults visiting for business, not even college students.
Not my idea of a great place to send a kid living on their own for the first time. .. while I am paying for them to learn.
But luckily, my kid never had any interest in it/the south.
Back before Tulance make a move in the ranks, one of my friends who had serious T1 diabetes went. He promptly got plastered and died freshman year. I will never understand what his parents are thing. Yes, a kid who wants to drink with drink. But, campus culture matters too. And at the time, Tulane was one of the top 5 college for drinkers in the county. Why send a a T1 diabetic to a school where the whole social scene is alcohol?
I was accepted to Tulane in the mid-90s. I was a partier in high school and my dad became VERY worried about Tulane when he saw my enthusiasm and commitment to attending. He instituted a full-scale push from family, friends, my boyfriend (who he hated!), teachers, everyone to push me towards another school he deemed “safer.” Well, I finally caved and went to the other school, which had a similar social scene but wasn’t NOLA. I swear my dad saved me. I had plenty of fun in college, too much really, and definitely had the capacity to go off the edge. I was surrounded by good people who helped keep me wraith to and allowed me to mature. I know deep-down that Tulane/NOLA would’ve ruined me. So I agree that a parent really can be a huge influence/help in these matters.
What a ridiculous post. Bashing a school that you never even attended on the basis of what might have been? And your dad had to bring out the cavalry to have you go elsewhere? Really? Were you paying your own tuition? This post is all about you -- not Tulane and not NOLA. News flash: hundreds of thousands of people have managed to survive and thrive at both.
Anonymous
02/25/2021 08:42
Subject: What school dropped off the list because of your visit?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Re Tulane — I spent a lot of my life in NOLA. Tulane is already a very Greek party school and when you add Marci Gras to that you get a school that can really be too much socially for some kids. But extroverted, very socially comfortable kids can go there and love it. I have found when it comes to New Orleans people either love it or hate it with nothing in between.
I have never been to a city that was more DRENCHED in alcohol. And I mean for adults visiting for business, not even college students.
Not my idea of a great place to send a kid living on their own for the first time. .. while I am paying for them to learn.
But luckily, my kid never had any interest in it/the south.
New Orleans is its own thing. I wouldn't lump NOLA culture in with "the South."
Anonymous
02/25/2021 08:37
Subject: What school dropped off the list because of your visit?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:UVA.
DC is in at Columbia.
Sounds like a humble brag, not a drop based on a site visit.
Nope. DC wanted an urban feel.
My kid wanted an urban school and I thought he would love Columbia, but he hated it. He really liked UPenn which surprised me. (Denied ED at UPenn, though.)
Anonymous
02/25/2021 08:28
Subject: What school dropped off the list because of your visit?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:mAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Re Tulane — I spent a lot of my life in NOLA. Tulane is already a very Greek party school and when you add Marci Gras to that you get a school that can really be too much socially for some kids. But extroverted, very socially comfortable kids can go there and love it. I have found when it comes to New Orleans people either love it or hate it with nothing in between.
I have never been to a city that was more DRENCHED in alcohol. And I mean for adults visiting for business, not even college students.
Not my idea of a great place to send a kid living on their own for the first time. .. while I am paying for them to learn.
But luckily, my kid never had any interest in it/the south.
Back before Tulance make a move in the ranks, one of my friends who had serious T1 diabetes went. He promptly got plastered and died freshman year. I will never understand what his parents are thing. Yes, a kid who wants to drink with drink. But, campus culture matters too. And at the time, Tulane was one of the top 5 college for drinkers in the county. Why send a a T1 diabetic to a school where the whole social scene is alcohol?
This seems pretty dramatic. When I was young, WVU had the designation of being #1 party school. The reputation was, there’s absolutely nothing else to do there but drink. Watch out, parents.
I went. Sure there were major partiers, alcoholics, substance users, etc. But there were also the plenty of hard-working kids who just blew off steam every now and then. It wasn’t the constant alcoholic-weed hazed enviro that people painted it.
The group of kids who were hell-bent on drinking themselves to death would have done that anywhere.
I was accepted to Tulane in the mid-90s. I was a partier in high school and my dad became VERY worried about Tulane when he saw my enthusiasm and commitment to attending. He instituted a full-scale push from family, friends, my boyfriend (who he hated!), teachers, everyone to push me towards another school he deemed “safer.” Well, I finally caved and went to the other school, which had a similar social scene but wasn’t NOLA. I swear my dad saved me. I had plenty of fun in college, too much really, and definitely had the capacity to go off the edge. I was surrounded by good people who helped keep me wraith to and allowed me to mature. I know deep-down that Tulane/NOLA would’ve ruined me. So I agree that a parent really can be a huge influence/help in these matters.
This seems pretty dramatic. When I was young, WVU had the designation of being #1 party school. The reputation was, there’s absolutely nothing else to do there but drink. Watch out, parents.
I went. Sure there were major partiers, alcoholics, substance users, etc. But there were also the plenty of hard-working kids who just blew off steam every now and then. It wasn’t the constant alcoholic-weed hazed enviro that people painted it.
The group of kids who were hell-bent on drinking themselves to death would have done that anywhere.
Anonymous
02/25/2021 08:27
Subject: What school dropped off the list because of your visit?
Anonymous wrote:mAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Re Tulane — I spent a lot of my life in NOLA. Tulane is already a very Greek party school and when you add Marci Gras to that you get a school that can really be too much socially for some kids. But extroverted, very socially comfortable kids can go there and love it. I have found when it comes to New Orleans people either love it or hate it with nothing in between.
I have never been to a city that was more DRENCHED in alcohol. And I mean for adults visiting for business, not even college students.
Not my idea of a great place to send a kid living on their own for the first time. .. while I am paying for them to learn.
But luckily, my kid never had any interest in it/the south.
Back before Tulance make a move in the ranks, one of my friends who had serious T1 diabetes went. He promptly got plastered and died freshman year. I will never understand what his parents are thing. Yes, a kid who wants to drink with drink. But, campus culture matters too. And at the time, Tulane was one of the top 5 college for drinkers in the county. Why send a a T1 diabetic to a school where the whole social scene is alcohol?
This seems pretty dramatic. When I was young, WVU had the designation of being #1 party school. The reputation was, there’s absolutely nothing else to do there but drink. Watch out, parents.
I went. Sure there were major partiers, alcoholics, substance users, etc. But there were also the plenty of hard-working kids who just blew off steam every now and then. It wasn’t the constant alcoholic-weed hazed enviro that people painted it.
The group of kids who were hell-bent on drinking themselves to death would have done that anywhere.
I was accepted to Tulane in the mid-90s. I was a partier in high school and my dad became VERY worried about Tulane when he saw my enthusiasm and commitment to attending. He instituted a full-scale push from family, friends, my boyfriend (who he hated!), teachers, everyone to push me towards another school he deemed “safer.” Well, I finally caved and went to the other school, which had a similar social scene but wasn’t NOLA. I swear my dad saved me. I had plenty of fun in college, too much really, and definitely had the capacity to go off the edge. I was surrounded by good people who helped keep me wraith to and allowed me to mature. I know deep-down that Tulane/NOLA would’ve ruined me. So I agree that a parent really can be a huge influence/help in these matters.
Anonymous
02/25/2021 05:03
Subject: What school dropped off the list because of your visit?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Re Tulane — I spent a lot of my life in NOLA. Tulane is already a very Greek party school and when you add Marci Gras to that you get a school that can really be too much socially for some kids. But extroverted, very socially comfortable kids can go there and love it. I have found when it comes to New Orleans people either love it or hate it with nothing in between.
I have never been to a city that was more DRENCHED in alcohol. And I mean for adults visiting for business, not even college students.
Not my idea of a great place to send a kid living on their own for the first time. .. while I am paying for them to learn.
But luckily, my kid never had any interest in it/the south.
Back before Tulance make a move in the ranks, one of my friends who had serious T1 diabetes went. He promptly got plastered and died freshman year. I will never understand what his parents are thing. Yes, a kid who wants to drink with drink. But, campus culture matters too. And at the time, Tulane was one of the top 5 college for drinkers in the county. Why send a a T1 diabetic to a school where the whole social scene is alcohol?
I was accepted to Tulane in the mid-90s. I was a partier in high school and my dad became VERY worried about Tulane when he saw my enthusiasm and commitment to attending. He instituted a full-scale push from family, friends, my boyfriend (who he hated!), teachers, everyone to push me towards another school he deemed “safer.” Well, I finally caved and went to the other school, which had a similar social scene but wasn’t NOLA. I swear my dad saved me. I had plenty of fun in college, too much really, and definitely had the capacity to go off the edge. I was surrounded by good people who helped keep me wraith to and allowed me to mature. I know deep-down that Tulane/NOLA would’ve ruined me. So I agree that a parent really can be a huge influence/help in these matters.
Anonymous
02/25/2021 02:13
Subject: What school dropped off the list because of your visit?
Clemson. DD did not like the vibe. Thought the kids were too much the same and too rah rah. I could not have disagreed with her more. I loved it. It was much prettier campus than I expected, town was more lively than I expected and professor who talked to tour group was inspiring.
Anonymous
02/24/2021 23:42
Subject: What school dropped off the list because of your visit?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:God, this is all just so bizarre. What if I just want to eat wherever I want? So glad I went to a school that didn’t have this nonsense.
^^Lol!
For all the douche canoes on this godforsaken site that constantly harp about "fratty" culture. Hey people, all schools whether they have a greek system or not have a jacked up cliquey club culture, get over it.
This is not true.
Many of the SLAC's we visited, for example, allow no clubs on campus that would not accept anyone who wanted to join.
You don't realize how small your world view is. Or what is possible instead of what you have experienced.
Sure Jan....small world view my a$$, get a life, even your neighborhood has cliques. You're just too naïve to get it.
DP. You seem dense. No one said there aren’t cliques. But there’s a difference when you have to beg someone to let you join, and then pay them hundreds of dollars. But if auditioning for and buying your friends floats your boat, knock yourself out.
You are the one with a dearth of intelligence...no one said anything about auditioning and buying friends. The comment was clear, cliques exist whether sanctioned or not, it is human nature. To believe any environment where young adults are massed together doesn't include said cliques is dense and naïve. You can site all of the pristine SLAC BS you want, at the end of the day their will be cliques whether your feeble mind wants to accept it or not.
Sure, people gravitate to each other, forming groups. But not all groups are exclusive and divisive, nor do all schools feature "a jacked up cliquey club culture." Similarly, college students drink everywhere, but drinking culture is more prominent in some schools than others. And all colleges have students who are just there for the degree rather than the love of learning, but this is more true in some schools than others.
Groups by their very nature are both exclusive and divisive, that is why they are groups. You tell yourself whatever you want but there is not a campus on this earth that does not have some sort of divisive club culture...full stop. All of you that tell yourself otherwise are absolute idiots.
Really? The college I attended had no Greek system and the clubs were open to anyone interested. Kids partied in different dorms or off-campus without needing to be a member of one thing or another. You sound very limited.
Anonymous
02/24/2021 23:32
Subject: What school dropped off the list because of your visit?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:God, this is all just so bizarre. What if I just want to eat wherever I want? So glad I went to a school that didn’t have this nonsense.
^^Lol!
For all the douche canoes on this godforsaken site that constantly harp about "fratty" culture. Hey people, all schools whether they have a greek system or not have a jacked up cliquey club culture, get over it.
This is not true.
Many of the SLAC's we visited, for example, allow no clubs on campus that would not accept anyone who wanted to join.
You don't realize how small your world view is. Or what is possible instead of what you have experienced.
Sure Jan....small world view my a$$, get a life, even your neighborhood has cliques. You're just too naïve to get it.
DP. You seem dense. No one said there aren’t cliques. But there’s a difference when you have to beg someone to let you join, and then pay them hundreds of dollars. But if auditioning for and buying your friends floats your boat, knock yourself out.
You are the one with a dearth of intelligence...no one said anything about auditioning and buying friends. The comment was clear, cliques exist whether sanctioned or not, it is human nature. To believe any environment where young adults are massed together doesn't include said cliques is dense and naïve. You can site all of the pristine SLAC BS you want, at the end of the day their will be cliques whether your feeble mind wants to accept it or not.
Whoooooooosh... learn how to read. You are truly exhausting.
Anonymous
02/24/2021 21:34
Subject: What school dropped off the list because of your visit?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:God, this is all just so bizarre. What if I just want to eat wherever I want? So glad I went to a school that didn’t have this nonsense.
^^Lol!
For all the douche canoes on this godforsaken site that constantly harp about "fratty" culture. Hey people, all schools whether they have a greek system or not have a jacked up cliquey club culture, get over it.
This is not true.
Many of the SLAC's we visited, for example, allow no clubs on campus that would not accept anyone who wanted to join.
You don't realize how small your world view is. Or what is possible instead of what you have experienced.
Sure Jan....small world view my a$$, get a life, even your neighborhood has cliques. You're just too naïve to get it.
DP. You seem dense. No one said there aren’t cliques. But there’s a difference when you have to beg someone to let you join, and then pay them hundreds of dollars. But if auditioning for and buying your friends floats your boat, knock yourself out.
You are the one with a dearth of intelligence...no one said anything about auditioning and buying friends. The comment was clear, cliques exist whether sanctioned or not, it is human nature. To believe any environment where young adults are massed together doesn't include said cliques is dense and naïve. You can site all of the pristine SLAC BS you want, at the end of the day their will be cliques whether your feeble mind wants to accept it or not.
Sure, people gravitate to each other, forming groups. But not all groups are exclusive and divisive, nor do all schools feature "a jacked up cliquey club culture." Similarly, college students drink everywhere, but drinking culture is more prominent in some schools than others. And all colleges have students who are just there for the degree rather than the love of learning, but this is more true in some schools than others.
Groups by their very nature are both exclusive and divisive, that is why they are groups. You tell yourself whatever you want but there is not a campus on this earth that does not have some sort of divisive club culture...full stop. All of you that tell yourself otherwise are absolute idiots.
Anonymous
02/24/2021 21:23
Subject: What school dropped off the list because of your visit?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:God, this is all just so bizarre. What if I just want to eat wherever I want? So glad I went to a school that didn’t have this nonsense.
^^Lol!
For all the douche canoes on this godforsaken site that constantly harp about "fratty" culture. Hey people, all schools whether they have a greek system or not have a jacked up cliquey club culture, get over it.
This is not true.
Many of the SLAC's we visited, for example, allow no clubs on campus that would not accept anyone who wanted to join.
You don't realize how small your world view is. Or what is possible instead of what you have experienced.
Sure Jan....small world view my a$$, get a life, even your neighborhood has cliques. You're just too naïve to get it.
DP. You seem dense. No one said there aren’t cliques. But there’s a difference when you have to beg someone to let you join, and then pay them hundreds of dollars. But if auditioning for and buying your friends floats your boat, knock yourself out.
You are the one with a dearth of intelligence...no one said anything about auditioning and buying friends. The comment was clear, cliques exist whether sanctioned or not, it is human nature. To believe any environment where young adults are massed together doesn't include said cliques is dense and naïve. You can site all of the pristine SLAC BS you want, at the end of the day their will be cliques whether your feeble mind wants to accept it or not.
Sure, people gravitate to each other, forming groups. But not all groups are exclusive and divisive, nor do all schools feature "a jacked up cliquey club culture." Similarly, college students drink everywhere, but drinking culture is more prominent in some schools than others. And all colleges have students who are just there for the degree rather than the love of learning, but this is more true in some schools than others.
Anonymous
02/24/2021 21:13
Subject: What school dropped off the list because of your visit?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
You are the one with a dearth of intelligence...no one said anything about auditioning and buying friends. The comment was clear, cliques exist whether sanctioned or not, it is human nature. To believe any environment where young adults are massed together doesn't include said cliques is dense and naïve. You can site all of the pristine SLAC BS you want, at the end of the day their will be cliques whether your feeble mind wants to accept it or not.
You meant "cite."
Yeah, I also meant there as opposed to their but you know if that is all you have you prove my point, you are a vapid moron.
Anonymous
02/24/2021 21:09
Subject: What school dropped off the list because of your visit?
Anonymous wrote:
You are the one with a dearth of intelligence...no one said anything about auditioning and buying friends. The comment was clear, cliques exist whether sanctioned or not, it is human nature. To believe any environment where young adults are massed together doesn't include said cliques is dense and naïve. You can site all of the pristine SLAC BS you want, at the end of the day their will be cliques whether your feeble mind wants to accept it or not.
You meant "cite."