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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here.

[b]My wife contacted my Dad last night[/b] and told him that he needs to apply for Medicaid for in home care and the ongoing plan we have will not work. She encouraged my Dad to take a leave of absence and offered to help on the weekends, but not during the week.

My Dad is going to talk to his HR representative today to look into FMLA for a short time.

Thank you everyone for the suggestions. I feel relieved. [/quote]

That's great, but why did your wife have to be the one to contact YOUR father and come up with a plan? You should have been the one doing this. You'd better thank her profusely.[/quote]

She does this for a living and Op does not....[/quote]

So what? He could ask his wife for advice, but he should have been the one to relay the information and draw the boundary with his family. He relies on his wife for a backbone. [/quote]

I have yet to see how this family has done anything to warrant having boundaries drawn.  If anything, the one who was attempted to be steamrolled into taking this ALL on single handed was the sister in this situation.  Thankfully, Op and his wife have decided to step up and do their part.

I think that they should keep SIL and BIL apprised of this business about Medicaid.  I don't know why they wouldn't do that.  Obviously, sis is concerned enough to be trying to help her Dad.  I think it's really unfair to treat her like the enemy.  [/quote]

Are you the sister?  Are you reading a different thread?  NO ONE was trying to get the sister to do more.  OP said she agreed to do one day, "maybe two."  And OP was completely willing to accept that.  He wasn't upset with his sister, but with his wife.  You're projecting so much, just like the wife-haters who think she's a selfish heartless cow out for an inheritance based on NOTHING.  In fact, she had a perfectly reasonable and practical suggestion, which she managed herself, and was willing to help on the weekends.  [/quote]

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