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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]10:58 wins my award for most amazing wronged wife story. Hats off to that woman & so awed by her ability to do the right AND expedient, smart thing. Holy sh*t.[/quote]
You can only do that sort of thing if you have no feeling left for your husband (and no one is saying you should, after this) and view him primarily as a convenience and an ATM.  Otherwise no woman would put a mistress so close to her husband.  I am curious how the home life went after the babysitter moved in, and how the husband treated both women in the home.  Did he sleep with both or with neither? Did the mother continue to sleep with him fearing for her financial wellbeing?

What a wretched, excruciating situation, and how stupid and selfish are the men who put women and children into this mess. [/quote]

I'm the original poster of this story.  Although I wouldn't have put it so coldly as "view(ing) him primarily as a convenience and an ATM", I do agree that most of her feelings for her marriage were probably gone, at least for a while. Keep in mind that this was the early 1970s and single, uneducated mothers didn't have as many options as they do today.

Friend's mom is pretty open about the situation now. She basically felt that she'd ended up in a shitty situation, and her obligations were (in order):
1. To her own children
2. To the 16yo child who had been victimized by her own husband
3. To herself, finding a way to make peace with the situation and lay a path for a better future
Far down on the list was any obligation to her husband or desire to save a perfect marriage.

I don't know who had sex with who while the babysitter lived with them. I assume there wasn't a lot of sex going on at all. Friend's mom says now that she was really bitter towards her husband for a while, but just figured out how to live with it. By the time the immediate crisis was over and the babysitter moved out, she had just reached a state of acceptance and didn't see any reason to blow things up at that point.

I can say that after the babysitter moved out, there was still over a decade where the parents were still married, and presented themselves to the world as a normal happy family. Parents appeared as affectionate with each other as any other long-married couples I knew.  It was only after the divorce, and my friend was in her 20s, that the mom began divulging everything, and my friend learned that this "family friend" she'd known her whole life was actually a half-sister. [/quote]

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