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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel like we're being a little hard on the OP. Is it so wrong to have your partner take over one aspect of household management if you stay at home and do everything else?
Would you say the same thing to a SAHP who refused to clean or do finances?

For example, one friend of mine is awful at finances (bad credit, etc,), and despite the fact that she has a bit more time than her husband, being an almost SAHMer (works 1 shift a week), he does anything money-related. He's actually not that good at it either (they're both in medicine and basically never learned to balance a check book before they got out of residency), but she does all the shopping/cooking/cleaning/most of the child care. And flat out refuses to pay bills or do investments because she hates it, and has a bad track record.

But a lot of people wouldn't take issue with the above, right? Because its quite common for the working spouse to do the finances. I feel like people are criticizing the OP, because its cooking, which somehow, these days, gets elevated status or something. But maybe she's bad at it, or hates it. If she does everything else, I'd think her DH would give her a break. [/quote]

To me, part of it is a timing/logistics issue. I'm a SAHM, and my husband handles our finances. Sometimes he does it at work when he has a few minutes of down time, or he might do it in the evening after dinner and getting the kids to bed, or spend an hour on it on a weekend. It's flexible. Making dinner is an effort that has to happen at a particular time (roughly speaking) each day, and doesn't have a lot of flexibility. Her husband can't do it during his lunch break at the office, or wait until he's been home for a couple of hours, it's work that pretty much needs to be done the moment he walks in the door, and preferably started before then. If you think about it in terms of who is better situated to take on a particular task, it's obviously her because she is the one at home to get dinner started while he is commuting.[/quote]

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