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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is totally understandable to me. Say, conservatively, cousin has invited 15 couples with 2 kids each. That’s quickly 30 extra people. And those extra people are likely to cry through the ceremony and run amuck on the dance floor. You need to decide whether it’s worth it you to attend the wedding or not.

I say this as someone who also is juggling childcare for an upcoming cousins wedding, and who invited kids to my own wedding. The only situation where I think this is kind of uncool is if there are kids close to the couple (e.g. nieces and nephews) who would really be eager to be there. Cousins kids don’t count. It’s alsonice if the hosts can provide local babysitting recs (we did this for people who wanted to stay late).[/quote]

It surprises me that people care so much about kids “ruining” the day. So a baby cries or a 5 year old dances on the dance floor. What’s the big deal? The kids parents will deal with them. It’s not like the bride has to babysit. If the issue is that you can’t stand the idea that someone may spend more time looking at the cleansing kid than at you, or won’t hear every second of your scintillating vows because a kid might be talking, well, grow up already and get over it. I very wedding I have ever been to has had kids. Including my wedding. Never been a problem. [/quote]
The fact that you think the vows are unimportant makes me think you'd be a shitty selfish guest[/quote]

I'm really not. I have never taken my own kids to a wedding, and when we go to places that they need to be quiet, we always sit by the exit and leave if they act up at all. However, I am not bothered by other people's kids acting up a bit as long as they are young. In my family and all the other families I'm close to, weddings are about uniting families, and families are about children. It would be painfully sterile to have a wedding without children. The chatter of a baby makes everyone smile. I'm not talking about a 4 year old having a tantrum. But a 2 year old who says "mommy look at Aunt Susie!" or whatever and the mother gently shushing her -- that doesn't bother me; it's expected.

And if you think people are listening to every word of your vows, you're mistaken. Most vows are rote. Those that aren't, usually aren't in a weird way.

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