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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Because we don't know what her mental status is.  Depression?  Some mild disorder?  A more serious issue?

Because she sort of gave up on trying.  Something happened.

Because I don't particularly believe Larla's side of the debacle.  We've only heard her side.  Larla's description of the situation gives hints and clues that some of the details are total bs.  So what else is bs?

Put yourself in Mary's shoes.  I'm going to assume you're married. Imagine that your home is held in your husband's name.  Humor me and assume the laws haven't changed from the 19th century, and your husband holds all property in his name.  You are 50 years old.  You have invested your energies and what income you have into your life, and your home being a large part of your life, you have put a lot of love, a lot of blood sweat and tears into your home.  One day your husband croaks.  You subsequently find out he left the house to his grand-niece, who is just starting out and struggling to put herself through college.  You know the house inheritance will prove a boon to the grand-niece.  But what about you?  You are suddenly left high and dry.  You realize your husband secretly hated you.  He threw in some money to get you started in another living situation, but you BETTER be very, very wise in how you use that money, or you will find yourself homeless in a year or two.  You don't know what's worse -- finding out the man you depended on for love, for support, for so much else actually despised and disrespected you, or that he left you a mean legacy from beyond the grave.  I realize making a comparison of Thelma/Mary to a husband/wife is rough at best, but trying to show [b]what it might be like to find yourself suddenly not owning your home because someone else owns it [/b]unexpectedly.  Maybe losing your house to a foreclosure due to unforseen circumstances could be another comparison.

I don't know what the answer is.  Maybe Mary will be able to rise to the occasion and find out she is capable of supporting herself and living her own life.

We can only hope that is what will happen.
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But it is not and was never owned by Mary. This isn't a sudden change.  A foreclosure isn't the same because at least one time you owned the title to that home. Mary is as manipulative as anyone thinks OP is.

And for the PP who suggested that Mary should've "been forced sooner" to make a decision- that also isn't everyone else's fault. Mary was free to make her own decisions all her life. She still is.

My family has a similar situation we are concerned will one day happen. Nothing we can say or do in life can change this person's behavior and though the writing is on the wall I'm sure it will come as a shock. [/quote]

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