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[quote=Anonymous]If you aren't the OP who's stringing all of us along with a weird story that reads more like a bad commercial fiction with too many questionable details, contradictions and distorted information than real life, then you sound like someone who's young and who hasn't seen much of the world, which would explain your lack of sympathy and understanding of life in general.

Whatever the situation is, it remains that a mother allowed her adult daughter to live at home for decades long after most people leave the nest, never pushed her daughter out or served her with "tough love" and allowed the daughter to believe that she would inherit the primary residence (making veiled hints about not counting her chicks before they hatch doesn't count). This certainly affected Mary's decision making. Had she known five years ago or ten years ago she wouldn't inherit the house, had she been kicked out, she would have surely been forced to make decisions about her future and long term-well being that would have resulted in actions (jobs, finances) that would help put her in a better and more stable position.

But Thelma did not. Entitled or not, she pulled the rug underneath her own daughter out of a desire to punish her.

I don't know anything more about the story than what's been told to us by one person and we only know her perspective. But I'm hearing of late middle aged woman, single, no real relationships, working as a waitress despite two graduate degrees, who's been hugely bitchslapped by her own mother, and yes, I bet there's a lot of emotional issues going on. Odds are there is. If this is a true story. When you get older and you see more of life and watch many people evolve throughout the years in multiple life circumstances, you do start seeing depths to situations that makes the narrowness of black/white scenarios adopted by the young, naive, unnecessarily harsh, arrogant and distasteful.

Maybe this is a true story. But if it is, have some sympathy for Mary. Don't laugh and sneer at her. Don't take a "gotcha" attitude. She must feel that she's in a terrible, frightening situation. And it's no fun.

[quote=Anonymous]I don't feel bad for Mary one bit, her gravy train is over.
If Mary was depressed or had some kind of mental health issue Roy would be coming to her aid, or at the very least to her defense... but he's not.
Roy is probably very resentful that Thelma enabled Mary to get away with this kind of spoiled, childish behavior for so many years.

Mary has multiple degrees including her Masters, but she decided that when it came down to it if she couldn't be the boss, then she didn't want to work at all.
Mary  was capable enough to go to multiple schools, earn multiple degrees, move out on her own multiple times, get engaged, move across the country on her own, etc.  So please, let's not all feel bad for Mary ok?  Mary has had it easier than most people her age who have worked their entire life.

Mary was lazy because Thelma enabled her to be, why would she change if Thelma didn't force it?  
When Mary actually wanted do something she had absolutely no problem getting off her kiester & doing it, right?

Mary doesn't sit around the house depressed all day staring at the four walls, she took all of that money that she flushed down the toilet getting her degrees & became a waitress (even though she's clearly over qualified & could do so much more).  No wonder Thelma was pissed at her when she died!  I'd be furious if I spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on my daughter getting wasted degrees, just to have her become a waitress.  I would have pulled the rug out from under her lazy ass too.

It's amazing that people think that Mary has depression, just because she still lived with her mom... why wouldn't she??  She had it good!

When Mary wanted to do something she had no depression all of a sudden holding her back, what would be the clinical diagnosis for that "selective depression"? umm "alternative depression"?

Mary doesn't sound depressed... Mary sounds entitled.  :roll: [/quote][/quote]

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