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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Was talking about this thread with a friend who said that the exact same thing happened in her family. Her parents had SEVEN kids, and her father became distant. He was having an affair, and the woman got pregnant, and expected to control him. He actually left his wife to be with this woman. Then the lawyers got together to discuss the divorce, and he realized that he would lose "everything". So he scrambled back and begged his wife to take him back. She had kids ages 2-16. She took him back, but only with the condition that he cut off all, ALL, contact with the other woman and the child. Fast forward 35 years, they are happily married. 
My friend said that a divorce would have been expensive and acrimonious. Her siblings would not have stood a chance of college at all. The other child did get support until age 18. Yes, "unfair", but in this case, more kids (7) were better off. One child, was worse off. [/quote]

That's crazy!  With 7 kids, that's probably the only way it could have worked out.  You can't really leave a marriage with 7 kids.[/quote]

Maybe. But I have no respect for a person who ask their spouse to cut off another child, no matter how the child came to being. That is some nastiness right there.[/quote]

There was a  lot of nastiness. The nastiest was the father, then the OW, then the mother of the 7 kids who puts her brain into pure survival mode. [/quote]

Yeah, the mother of 7 is BY FAR the best person, morally, in the situation.[/quote]

No one disagrees. But she is still evil. And did she screw her husband  knowing the only reason he was with her was because he could not afford to be with the other woman?

I hope some of you supporting this are not the very ones shitting on Melania Trump in the Political Forum.[/quote]

When people are in survival mode, how can you call them evil? She has to do what she has to do. She needs an intact home to raise the kids. [b]She NEEDS that. [/b]OW obviously was willing to risk it all, and she lost. In this case, wife was right and her children should thank her for taking control of the situation and protecting them. [/quote]

She WANTS that.  She doesn't need it.  The kids aren't going to get eaten by bears or slaughtered by a rival village if she is divorced.  Lots of divorced families out there getting along just fine. [/quote]
It's kind of crazy that you expect a mother to sacrifice the wellbeing of her seven kids, their education, stable home and financial security in favor of another child unrelated to her who she neither met nor wanted in her life.   A mother looks our for her kids, number one, two and three.  She doesn't care about any other kids, nor should she. [/quote]

That kind of self-centeredness is purely evil when you are talking about your children's sibling.  Put your kids first, sure.  Insist that their sibling be abandoned so that you can enjoy better finances?  That's morally reprehensible.  It makes her worse than the cheater. [/quote]

Their half-sibling did get support so she wasn't abandoned financially.

As for the other sort of abandonment, the wellbeing of her seven children depended heavily on having a stable home.  No marriage can withstand constant contact with the mistress, so separating from the side family was the right thing to do for the survival of the original one. [/quote]

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