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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do you process, in a healthy way, men sitting there for hours staring at your body parts like you're subhuman? Do you have a mental game/trick that gives you a feeling of empowerment over this? Does it feel familiar, as a sexual abuse survivor? No judgment in this question, more purely psychological curiosity. [/quote]

It does seem like there is judgement in your question. I don't think about this. I just try to do my job and entertain.[/quote]

I'm sorry you sense judgment in the question. There really isn't. Most of the men watching you are not there to enjoy the artistry of your dancing, or even to appreciate you physically as a whole person, and they're not thinking about what an intelligent and nice person you are. They're reducing you to sexual body parts. Especially the sex addicts. A woman who chooses your line of work needs a defense against the sense that she's reduced to this. Some come to despise men, some self-medicate to block it out, some despise themselves. I'm just surprised your therapist hasn't addressed this with you, and that you haven't given it more thought. I think it's important to work through for anyone, but especially if you have a history of sexual abuse, where someone has ignored who you are as a person and reduced you to body parts for their sexual use in a very traumatic way. [/quote]

PP again, and I know that my artistry was definitely appreciated.  I was well known for my stage shows.

Some of the men do appreciate intelligence.  I've spent time in the champagne room discussing existentialism, mindfulness, and Buddhist philosophy.  But most of the time I wa just naked, dancing on the table.  Lol.  Most guys are there to have mindless fun, and feel threatened by intelligent strippers.  It snaps them out of the fantasy.

I never expected customers to appreciate me as a person.  My job was to entertain them.

Do you go around asking the salespeople at Macy's if they're hurt that customers don't "appreciate them as a whole person"?[/quote]

OP here, thank you PP! No one is worried about how we exploit waitresses, cashiers, maids and nannies. I was a bartender during university and men said very crude things to me then, openly ogled me and didn't give a whit about me. Why is objectification worse if you're naked?[/quote]

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